(Closed) How would you feel about a proposal at your reception?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 122
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Eep! I’ve just discovered a new irrational wedding fear lol. I hope this Doesn’t happen to us, I’d be upset! 

Post # 123
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would be pissed off, future hubby and I haven’t been planning our wedding day for a whole year for someone else to steal our thunder.  Its OUR day, and its the one day that is all about US.  And I don’t care if I sound bridezilla lol, they could do it any other day except our one.

Post # 124
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be so pissed if this happened at my weddding. Like PP said, we didn’t spend a year planning every minute of this day for someone else to steal our thunder. Neither Fiance nor I usually like to be center of attention, but this is the one day that should be all about us. I would also imagine it would be awkward for the guests – if I was a guest who knew the engaged couple I would feel like I should congratulate them but wouldn’t want to make a big deal of it because it is someone elses day, and if I didn’t know them then it would just be plain awkward – what do you do?

Post # 126
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i would be livid if somebody proposed to somebody at my wedding. after i got engaged, my Fiance told me that he wanted to ask me sooner, but he had to wait because we had two weddings to attend last june and he didn’t want to take “their moment” from them by announcing we were engaged (because he doesn’t see his extended family often).

i would totally have your Fiance bring it up to his friend just to make sure that doesn’t happen.

Post # 127
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Buzzing bee

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@Nona99:  

+1

 

Wow, I’m definitely in the minority here. I can’t imagine wasting one ounce of energy worrying about something like this on my wedding day. I would just be happy for the newly engaged couple and carry on with my wonderful day.

Post # 128
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That’s a big no-no unless you have the couples ok. I would be ok with a proposal to someone I’m very close with, otherwise heck no.

Post # 129
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know I would be upset about it, it just seems like a very inappropriate time to propose. I also wouldn’t want to be proposed to at someone else’s wedding. It just seems like a very attention grabbing type of thing to do… A wedding should be all about the couple, and a proposal should be all about THAT couple. They don’t need to overlap.

Post # 130
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be pissed as the bride or the bride-to-be! Weddings and proposals should be about you and your SO. The guy should care enough about his friend and his future bride to pick a time where the spotlight can be on them alone.

Post # 131
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Personally, I would be so HAPPY if someone else decided to get married because of the beauty of my wedding! It’s such a beautiful moment…I remember how happy I was when my man proposed ; ) however you seem to mention that he might do it just to upstage you which is a sh!itty intention of him.

 

 

Post # 132
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If someone was doing it to upstage me/my FI/the wedding, well… I’d be pissed off. But, if someone got engaged at my wedding for any other reason, I’d just be happy for them. I know when my Fiance and I went to friend’s weddings, we’d always come home talking about “when we get married someday”.

Post # 133
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Definitely depends who it is and if they came to us 1st with the plans so we could talk about it. Im not saying I would be 100% against it but if it waz someone I dont care much for like in your case I might ask that they find a different way / time to propose. 

Post # 134
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would be annoyed about it, because engagements are important and they deserve their own special celebration…that isn’t in the middle of my wedding.

However…I think I would really work hard to be gracious about it, especially if they were people I’m close to, and ESPECIALLY ESPECIALLY if it was a surprise and the person proposed to knew that it was in bad taste. As long as they were clueless and not showboaty one-uppers, I would want to make sure that they didn’t have any bad feelings or worries about me to cloud their memories.

It would be one of those situations in which you could either be super gracious about it, and all the gossipy biddies would say “Oh my goodness, I can’t believe he proposed at the wedding, but weren’t the bride and groom just absolute angels about it? They were both raised right, yes they were,” OR throw a fit and have them say “Well of course I can see why she was upset that he proposed at their wedding, but she looked like she was sucking on a lemon for the rest of the night. She should have been able to share the spotlight for a few minutes with her cousin, but she never HAS been good at sharing…”

Post # 135
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Newbee

That’s not cool at all. I would be mad as hell.

If you suspect he will be that tacky, just out right say to him ‘you better not doing anything crazy like propose at MY wedding’. I know you aren’t a fan of her and probably don’t care but, if I was her, I would NOT want to be propsed to at someone elses wedding. Get an imagination….geez

Post # 136
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would be really REALLY annoyed….so improper…

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