(Closed) How would you feel about having twins?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m not a twin and have no close experience with raising them. But the thought of getting pregnant with twins scares the crap out of me! But I suppose we’d deal with it just the way we would with only one child, the best you can!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@moonadea:  I think having twins would be exciting although VERY challenging for a new mom- not to mention expensive! I wouldn’t be too concerned about their dependence on each other as in my situation- most likely my babies will be in daycare since I will be working full time. I think they will have enough socialization from being around other children that this wouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would love twins! My aunt and uncle are twins and they are still very close.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not a twin and I don’t have firsthand experience with them, but if I could choose/decide, I definitely would love to have twins over a singleton. I love the bond that twins have (so I’ve read) and being an only child myself, I find the idea of having someone you are that close to and share everything with to be very appealing. I don’t think the attention issue is an issue considering there’s two of you (I’m assuming you’re not a single parent). If we were considering triplets, then I would be concerned since someone would be the “odd man out”.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I have twin siblings.I think it is a cool bong, I def wouldn’t worry about them not bonding with you, if anything it makes it easier as they get older because they can play with and entertain eachother. I would love to raise twins, but carrying twins would frighten me.  There is just always more of a risk carrying twins but people give birth to healthy twins every day. It would be a huge blessing. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think a lot of people romanticize twins because they’re uncommon. Having nannied twins this summer & being well aware of the increased risks that multiples & their mothers face, I’m not at all interested. Very few mothers are able to carry twins to term, and even if they do they have lower birth weights. I wouldn’t want to sacrifice my health or that of my babies for the sake of having more at the same time.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@moonadea:  I am a twin, and have many twins in my family (4-6 sets I think). I also want twins for myself – though everyone tells me it skips a generation in our family :

With that said, I am eternally greatful for my twin brother. We have a great relationship – and we had a great childhood. We never had to rely on our older sister to entertain us, because we had each other 🙂

I think you’d be incredibly lucky to end up with twins 😀 2 for the price of 1 indeed! Before the babies are even born, they are going to be bonded. I’ve read all kinds of interesting stuff about twins in the womb; so don’t sweat it. They’re going to bond to you like any baby would to their mother. You’ll just have twice as much love coming back 😀

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I say BRING IT ON!!!!!!! Lol. I would say “let’s go ahead and get it over with” ( I only want two anyway), lol. I would just be scared of complications. My co-worker is currently going through a pretty serious high risk pregnancy with twins.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would love twins!  There are positives and negatives to any child situation, as various bees have cited above.  However, as I would likely only be pregnant once, this would allow them to have siblings.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My grandmother had two sets of twins, she also had 16 kids, which is what would scare me more.   I would be scared to death but hey if she could do it with no indoor plumbing and no modern day conveniences I could do it.  I have a ton of friends that are twins, they all seem close but none of them are just families with twins, they have at least another sibling around, I’m not sure if that helps them bond with the entire family.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

It kind of scares me, but I think it would be AWESOME, too.  When I was teaching, a couple of my favorite students were a pair of identical twin boys.  They were in preschool and then first grade when I taught them, and they lived in the same apartment complex as me.  I LOVED teaching them and playing with them because they were very bright, active boys, and I thought it was so interesting to watch them interact.  They were very similar of course, but they also had their differences.  

My favorite days were the ones when they would have a disagreement.  It was so awesome to watch them argue about something – simple things, like what game to play outside or who could use the red marker right then – because they had the best communication skills of any preschoolers ever.  I’m sure it’s because they’re stuck with each other (although their five other siblings helped, I’m sure).  They would rationally discuss it and then come to a decision, hug, and move along with their day.

The other pairs of twins I taught all seemed to have exceptional interpersonal skills, too.

I’m terrified of being pregnant, and the thought of being pregnant with multiples makes me feel somewhat faint.  That being said, those little boys made me want twins, and if I ever found myself pregnant with twins, after I woke up from fainting of terror and shock, I would be thrilled.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Mr Dane thinks it would be the bomb.com but I’m only 5’3 with a short torso, so being pregnant in the first place will quickly become rather uncomfortable.  If we find out we’re having twins, I will cry some less-than-happy tears and be very stressed out.  I’d really REALLY prefer to carry to term, and with two entire human beings in a very small space competing for nutrients and territory the task just seems too daunting.  We know 4 different couples very well who have twins, and they all said that the lack of sleep alone was enough to make them insane.

That said, I know that whatever happens we will put on our grown-up pants and deal with the situation at hand.  We will be happy to have a baby at all, and if it’s meant for us to have two at once, well then so be it.  It wouldn’t be the end of the world, but it’s certainly not something we’re hoping for!

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