(Closed) How would you feel about moving in with your FIL/MIL?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Bumble bee

Never.Ever. EVER. I LOVE them but doing it would mean that I had seriously effed my life up some how since I’ve been livin on my own for almost 10 years.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

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Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I guess if it were that or the streets I would but I wouldnt want to. At all.

My Mother-In-Law is nice but I dont like her house and I enjoy my privacy and my own home. If I did move in, I would be taking every step possible to get out (2nd job, 3rd job, etc)

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh hell no!

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’d rather eat bugs.

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Laurenplusalex:  +100

Better than living in a car, but not by much!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I adore my Mother-In-Law, but no freakin way. Not because of her, but because it would just be way too weird to me…having sex in his parent’s house? Having his parents cook for us? It would feel like we were kids again. No dice.

Post # 24
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t mind. SO moved in with my parents for a year and half while we saved up for a house. It was tough as we were so cramped (we live in the UK and our houses are tiny compared to those in the US) but in many ways it was a great experience. SO really got to know my family so there is a close bond there even though we have moved out.

 

It will really depend on the relationship between you and your MIL/FIL. SO had been on a family holiday with us all, almost like a trial run, and although the circumstances are different it was a good indicator of how it would work.

Also, if you can live together in those circumstances then living together afterwards will be a breeze Laughing x

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Honestly, I did it for about two months. My apartment lease was up and we had put an offer on a house and were waiting for it to close and we lived with them for that time period. However, I love my inlaws and it was not awkward at all. Also, I frequently made dinner for them and did lots of cleaning so I didn’t feel too bad. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@sheepandbear:  I would never do it. I believe that part of being adults and married is living on our own, creating our own life and family without mommy and/or daddy constantly involved in some way.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love my fmil & ffil,  but I could never move in with them. Ever.

Post # 28
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh no, absolutely not. I think she’s wonderful and we get along great but I feel like all the positive things about our relationship would be destroyed if we had to live together. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

I couldn’t do it. My Future Father-In-Law is nice, but he has moments where his BPD hits really hard, and I couldn’t handle it. My Future Mother-In-Law is a total control freak, and I would probably argue non-stop with her. She would be more controlling with me now at 26, than my parents were when I was 16.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sheepandbear:  I wouldn’t be able to do it, but I’ve been on my own since I was17 so I like my space and to be able to go home to get away. I never did good w roommates either tho

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@sheepandbear:  I could never do it. DH and I are so used to living alone, I doubt we could even live with a housemate, much less my Mother-In-Law. MIL’s house is disgusting, his brothers and sisters still live at home (all adults) and it’s way too far away from both of our workplaces, public transport, etc. I would live on the streets before I moved in there!

I don’t even think I could live with my own parents again.

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