(Closed) How would you feel about moving in with your FIL/MIL?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ugh, that is my nightmare. Absolutely not, no matter what. Mind you, I get along incredibly well with my own parents, and I would never move back in there, either.

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We’re probably going to end up living with my Future Father-In-Law for a few months. Is it ideal? Of course not. But he’s nice enough, so I don’t see it as a big issue.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@sheepandbear:  my husband and I did this. We just bought our house this week because we couldn’t handle living with his family. his family is very up in our business and his mom is very clingy to my DH. It was hard for me because on one hand I was totally thankful that they were giving is this opportunity to save money, but on the other hand I resented that I no longer had personal space. Everything we did they were right there wanting to be a part of.  I love his family and I want to keep a good relationship with them so we opted to move out and save at a slower pace! It’s all up to how the living situation works and how you interact!  I have a friend that is doing it and she is making it work while ahe goes through law school. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sheepandbear:  I would do it for maybe a few months if it was absolutely necessary. I get along really well with my Mother-In-Law but 1-2 years would be more than I could handle I think. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We lived with my Mother-In-Law for about 6 months before we got our own place. Never ever again.

It put a huge strain on DH and I’s relationship, and also my relationship with his family.
Wouldn’t recommend it!

Post # 38
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Only if the only other option was homelessness 

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nononononono, this is pretty much my worst nightmare and would put such a huge strain on our marriage.

Post # 40
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just no!

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@sheepandbear:  I live with mine right now and my parents lived with my fathers parents before me. The only advice I can give you is absolutely do not do it. It doesn’t matter how good of a relationship you have with them it does not work out. My grandmother loved my mom till we all moved in with her and my grandfather. My Future Mother-In-Law liked me and treated me like gold before we moved in with her. Now she hates my guts and treats me absolutely awful. It has also put a huge strain on mine and FI’s relationship when she tries to control our relationship and our life to do what she wants us to do. JUST NO!!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I would never do it, too weird. I’d rather move in with my parents hehe

Post # 43
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@sheepandbear:  I would never ever ever if I could possibly help it- I just couldn’t it for my own happiness and sanity.  Maybe if it was a short term thing and very temporary (less than a month).

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m living in FMILs basement and if we had any other options we would NOT be here. She is a wonderful lady and I love her but living with her is driving me crazy. We are living with her to save more for a house downpayment. Fiance is working out of town on a 3 weeks(sometimes more) away, 1 week home rotation so we decided when our last lease was up to move in with her till we get our own house or he is done being up north. Every time Till Debt Do Us Part comes on she tells Fiance and myself that we should really watch the show and if we would just let her put us on an allowance we could save so much more money. 

I appreciate her letting us live here but I loathe being treated like a child.  

(For the record I am paying rent,  and its not a small amount either. )

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would die. Father-In-Law I adore. Mother-In-Law would make me go postal after a week. NOOOOOOOPE.

ETA: There is a reason my DH is on the opposite side of the country and limits contact to phone calls every couple of days. We were out there for Christmas last year and I was *so* done after a week. I have never been happier to fly away in an airplane. She’s a lovely lady, and she means well, but she does not do logic or reason (and she’s a lightweight so after a half glass of wine she’s drunk and she gets mean to my husband when she does. In an obnoxiously taunting kind of way).

Post # 46
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Bumble bee

SO’s mom is super sweet, but she smokes, so I wouldn’t want to – at least not permanently.  Besides, it’d be weird having sex under the same roof…

But if she ever needed to be taken care of and had to live with us, I’d be okay with it.

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