(Closed) How would you feel about moving in with your FIL/MIL?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 62
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Hell to the no.

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You couldn’t pay me, erase my DH’s law school debts, buy me all the shoes in the world, to live with my in-laws. 

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My DH did it for me. We currently live with my mom (huge house btw) while we save up for our own house.  Its not ideal but its not awful.  

 

I love his parents so if we had to move in with them, we could make it work.  I was very careful to marry a guy and a family that I really LOVED, so that if push came to shove, we could all live together in relative harmony.  I don’t understand the “worst nightmare” comments of other posters to be honest… my worst nightmare would be if something bad happened to my DH or my mom, or his parents, not if we had to live with either of our parents.    

Post # 65
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Post # 67
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Helper bee

I couldn’t see living as a couple at either of our parents’ houses. Because they live pretty close, we would both move in to our parents houses separately if that was the case. Even though we both have awesome parents, I would never feel at home at his parents’ house, and I would feel weird having my parents around all the time.

Post # 68
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@sheepandbear:  I would not do it.

I like my in-laws, but I don’t want to live with them.

I don’t want to live with my parents, either, though.

 

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I could never do it, my Future Mother-In-Law is a little OTT in babying my Fiance and I dont think I could stand it, also I would feel they would know to much about us and our relationship while living in the same house, as they are older they may view the way we do things different to how they do it and I do not want to be looked down apon in anyway by her etc. Also she is very much a person that would ALWAYS take her sons side, no matter if it was smack bang in her face that he was in the wrong haha, I like my space I would hate to have to tiptoe around them

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee

My In laws are fine. I don’t think I could move in with them though. I mean if I had no other choice, obviously I would. But my Mother-In-Law has a tendency to be a little over bearing at times. I mean I did marry her Baby, and let’s face it, my hubs is a HUGE momma’s boy. So I could see that posing an issue very quickly.

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My ILs have an enormous house and LOVE it when people stay there. My BIL/SIL stayed with them for several months while waiting for their new home to be finished. We may do the same. The reason this works, however, is that the house is huge (we would have our own suite of rooms and lots of privacy)  plus my ILs are super nice. 

Post # 75
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Helper bee

Not married yet, but i’m living with her parents and it quite frankly sucks, little privacy is the biggest issue! But they are some of the nicest people that I have ever met so I really can’t complain about them just the fact that I don’t have all my stuff easily accesible to me and in storage. But this is a SMALL price to pay as they are gracious enough to let me stay here without rent/utilities charges!

 

Post # 76
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I never say never, but it’d have to be a pretty extreme circumstance. Like a last last resort. While I was finishing my master’s degree my mom got diagnosed wih uterine cancer and I moved home to take care of her. My mom and I were very close and got along amazingly well. She made no demands or restrictions on my living with her. And it was stilll hard, at times. I think that when a child becomes an adult (at whatever age that might be) it simply becomes difficult to live with your parent. Even if you get along great and love them to pieces. It can be overcome, if need be, but it’s difficult. 

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