Post # 16
I just can’t get over how she would rather not miss out on something than want to come because she’s happy for me. I just feel as though this is her FOMO. I know it’s terrible to say, and if they’re going to be petty I will too, but I can’t help the thought that this better warrant a good gift…
Post # 17
I wouldn’t have invited her in the first place honestly either. she’s the sister of your friend – simple as that. You’re close with your friend, not her. I don’t see anything wrong with that.
Don’t sweat that they are being bratty about it. Stand your ground. It’s YOUR day, not theirs. You have your reasons for not inviting her in the first place and it comes down to numbers. They should respect that.
Post # 18
Oh dear, I am afraid that when they get the invitation, and find the sister’s boyfriend isn’t invited, they will throw another hissy fit, until he is.
The rule about breaking up families does not apply to adult children! It applies to minor children, still living in the home, with their parents. For example if you invite parents, and their 13 year old, you can’t omit their 9 year old. It doesn’t apply to adults. Adults get separate invitations. Adult children aren’t tagged along with their parents invitation.
I feel the same as you, you should not have given in and invited the sister. Maybe if the invitations haven’t gone out, take the chance and don’t invite her. They have already acting abysmally, the worst you will lose is a bunch of nasty rude friends.
Post # 19
well, the sister is going to look like an ass. Bc why would you show your face somewhere (esp a wedding!!!) where you are not wanted?! I would be mortified!
Post # 20
Oh she has no shame. She’ll show up happy as a clam.
Post # 21
It really sounds petty and it sucks when you’re in that boat. I will say, however, that I had a family member who had a wedding and the similiar situation happened: she invited her close friend from younger years (they are still bff) and the parents – but not her sister. I’m not sure why, nor do I know details, but her friend confronted my family member and an invite was extended with the idea that she didn’t mean to exclude.
Fast forward to me – my sister in law and I are VERY close. Her mother is a widow and, with my sister in law, has a son. Originally the idea was to just invite my sister in law’s mom, and not the brother, but then I thought about it – his whole core of a family will be with me and not him. I extended an invite and he is happily accepting. To be honest, if you’re able to do so, I say do it. I get what you mean that the girl lives outside of her core family; I also understand the idea that you don’t want to separate family members either.
Totally your call but I can absolutely relate! Best of luck!!