(Closed) How would you feel about your fiance having strippers at his bachelor party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How do you feel about strippers at your fiance's bachelor party?

    Over my dead body! There'd be no wedding after if he did.

    I wouldn't tell him what to do, but I wouldn't like it.

    Hell yes! I love watching strippers with my fiance. Mmmmm titties.

    Only if I have strippers too, to make it even.

    I don't really care.

    I'd be furious and make his life hell for a while, but I'd still marry him.

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Meh. I wouldn’t like it if he visited the strip clubs every weekend but I don’t mind it if he goes during a bachelor party. We have a look but don’t touch rule- so no lap dances or anything like that.

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @missoptimism:  second what you said!

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee

    I don’t not want him to have strippers because I don’t trust him, or think he would find them more attractive than me. If we went to a strip club together I would be fine with that. I just think it’s stupid to celebrate getting married with lap dances from strange women. just like he wouldn’t like it i fI wanted to lick whip cream off some male strippers abs. 

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldnt care. 

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I don’t like it. I wouldn’t like him going to a strip club or getting lap dances from random chicks at any other time so what makes the bachelor party any different? 

    Post # 38
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @sarahfw:  I wouldn’t mind. I get emotionally jealous, not sexually jealous (I don’t know why, it just doesn’t happen for me, I’m not that secure, my self esteem is not that high, idk) and I see no likely emotional connection to strippers. I don’t see them as a threat one bit.

    That said, DH finds them kind of boring and a waste of his money – he’s not much into being teased by strangers.

    I absolutely do not find it to be cheating or anything like cheating, but every couple has different boundaries and as long as everyone IN the relationship is happy with where the boundaries are, no one has any business telling a couple how to conduct their relationship.

    Post # 39
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would super duper pissed. I don’t think I would have called off the wedding tho.

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I, for one, am fine with it simply because I completely trust my Fiance. Honestly, if his brothers and friends ever DID take him to a stripclub, I would need to see a photo of his face! He’s very shy and polite, so I can only imagine it would be him, bright red, avoiding any touching or looking, just mumbling, “Yup…okay…”

    A girl I sat next to at college was actually a stripper and she said that girls NEVER went home with guys they met at a club, that it was “an urban legend” as far as she was concerned. She said she never would have considered it because if she was “doing lapdances for money, why would I go home and sleep with you for free?” This is just her view point of it, but I’ve always remembered that. 

     

    Post # 41
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My rule was that stripper at a strip club were okay but strippers at a hotel/house were not.

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    I wouldn’t have been ok with strippers and he knew that.  

    Post # 43
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I really wouldn’t care. My Fiance has been to strip clubs in the past when he was younger with his friends and I took him to one for his 30th birthday. I think I was into it more than he was.

    It’s a non-issue for us since – at this rate – we are thinking of combining our bachelor and bachelorette parties.

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    i didn’t vote bc I’m somewhere between the first two.  I mean, I def wouldn’t leave him if he went to strippers.  Especially at a party that is a surprise for him that he didn’t plan.  BUT he knows how I feel about strippers and that I’m NOT cool with it.  I think a lot people try to pass it off as we should be to cool girlfriends and who cares… I just think of it as, like… if money wasn’t being exchanged, this would be cheating.  He has a naked woman dancing for him, slithering herself all over him, but because he gave her $20 it’s all good and don’t be jealous.  Umm. What?  NOT OK. 

    However, I know it’s our culture and his brother LOVES it and is gunna want to take him.  So i’ve made it known time and time again to Fiance how I feel and have told him to tell his brother it’s off the table for the bachelor party.  I really don’t want to walk down the aisle with any resentment in my heart for it… (I don’t hold a grudge, but it’ll be pretty fresh before the wedding so Id imagine I’d still be simmering)

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I used to think strippers were harmless, but I heard out of my husband’s own mouth that lap dances are meant to make the man ejaculate. That’s gross and a man, or at least my man, will not have a sexual encounter with another woman even if it’s for “entertainment” purposes.

    Post # 46
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Kind of wish there was a vote between “but, I wouldn’t like it”, and “MMM TITIIES!”.

    Strip clubs are totally fine for me – around these parts, there is no touching allowed. So I’m okay with my guy & his buddies going to a strip club as part of his bach.. not an issue at all.

    I’m totally not okay with the 1-800 kind of strippers.. lots of times they are college girls who will do anything for a few dollars.. I’m not okay with that, for many reasons.

     

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