Post # 62
I say no to strippers now because my fiance last year (actually exactly a year to the day before our wedding) was in montreal for his brothers bachelor party and ended up at a strip club and was bought a lapdance by another one of the party’s attendees (was “peer pressured” …yea right!!).
If I hadn’t had a lengthy discussion on how emotionally uncomfortable it made me to think of him having a lapdance then I would have no one to blame but myself for not expressing my concerns before the party…but I did! Almost ended our relationship after I found out how the woman “had” him touch her boobies. Fiance said it made him extremely uncomfortable but he still disrespected me no matter how much I trusted him…this is all quite a sore topic for me! To add … I have never told my Fiance what he could or couldn’t do so for me to express these feelings about if you go into a strip club your opening yourself up to other things happening…was really difficult for me to do to begin with. In the end I’m obviously still marrying my Fiance … he showed a crap load of remorse but this whole situation still bugs the heck out of me!
Sorry for the rant/vent but I felt I could finally share my story on this topic! If your uncomfortable definitely express that to your Fiance..its not a right to have strippers at a bachelor party!
Post # 63
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I dont’ really know how to answer. On the one hand I don’t think I’d care. But that’ b/c I know my Fiance has no interest in other women. If he were a different guy maybe I’d care more? Who knows.
So I voted Hell Yeah!
ETA: To be clear, I also agree with the Pps who see a difference between a strip CLUB and strippers at a party. To me, the former is sort of like watching porn and the latter is like getting a prostitute. (This opinion is based on no actual factual knowledge)
Post # 64
I wouldn’t care. I’d probably have more fun than my SO tbh!
We have unique relationship rules though. Tit for tat, pun intended I guess. I trust him with that sort of thing, but if for some reason he disappointed me(which in itself is almost impossible) he knows he can tell me. Only way I’d leave is if he didn’t tell me if something happened. Then we’d have a problem.
Post # 65
Because nothing says ‘I want to marry the love of my life’ like looking at other naked people dancing in a sexual manner for money.
Post # 66
Both me and my husband have been to strip clubs, seperatly, but after seeing what exactally happens there..i dont think i would want him going. I think its fine for single guys to go watch the pretty dancers but we BOTH dont see it as something that needs to be in a relationship.
Post # 67
@sarahfw: My husband wouldn’t be interested, and if he was then he wouldn’t be my husband. I personally don’t want to date let alone marry someone who supports the sex industry or feel it’s a good idea to pay to see random women naked. It seems juvenile to me, like something a 19 year old boy would do, or else a desperate single man. It’s not something that shows respect to your wife in my mind. You’re not single and it’s not your “last night” before jail. Give me a break. I don’t buy it.
Post # 68
I would NOT be happy. If there was a lap dance, I’d be fuming and he’d never hear the end of it…but he also is not planning his bachelor party, and I know he’s not into strippers at ALL so even if he went because he was dragged, I know he wouldn’t be thrilled. I can’t see ending a relationship over this unless something physical happened on his part.
Post # 69
I think I don’t really care. I am pretty sure my girls will get a stripper, so I guess it would be super unfair for me to say it’s ok for me but not for him.
We are having our bachelor/bachelorette parties on the same weekend in the same town, so I guess that makes me worry less.
Post # 70
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@sarahfw: He doesn’t want any, which is cool by me. But if they turned up, I wouldn’t be bothered. Neither of us find strippers a particularly sexy concept, so if anyone hired one they’d definitely just be doing it to make him uncomfortable and have a laugh rather than for sexytimes purposes.
That said, he’s thinking of just having an at-home BBQ for his stag, and I remember hearing a story a friend of mine told when she came home after her flatmates had a stripper round and there was a baby-oil buttprint on the fridge door for some reason. So I’d be fine, as long as the stripper didn’t going around leaving baby oil buttprints on my stuff.
Post # 71
Calling off a wedding over a stripper is OVER THE TOP xs 10. This poll is surprising.
Post # 73
@southsun: +1, I’d definitely have more fun than him LOL We’re actually planning a joint bachelor/bachelorette party at a well known upscale strip club, more so me because he doesn’t really care; we’re inviting our mutual friends (no bridal party). And then afterwards we’re going to a Drag show (drag queens performing). We have a unique relationship I guess.
Post # 74
Honestly, I couldn’t give less of a shit if he had strippers. He’s a grown-up and can make that choice for himself. Getting a lapdance is not the same as cheating for me, especially since guys aren’t allowed to touch the strippers (though they can do a bit of touching). I also don’t have a problem with porn.
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Post # 76
I dont mind strip clubs and Fiance and I will go to strip clubs together occasionaly. The thing is that bachelor parties easily escalate and so I would not be comfortable with it at a bachelor party because of peer pressure. I trust my Fiance but I just know some of his groomsmen like to push the limits and a few of his groomsmen are cheaters (i know Fiance wouldnt cheat). I just dont want my Fiance having to deal with and spend his night turning down peer pressure, and it just makes me feel iggy thinking of all the things I know his groomsmen will try to push on him.
Its not really a cheating issue, its more of a sanitary issue, like when the stripper trys to put their tits in people mouths…..how many other dirty mouths have been on that??? I dont want him getting like heppetitis or anything because some dirty stripper nipple went in his mouth lol. Im cool with him going, and im cool with him getting a lap dance at a no touching establishment. I just hope they dont hire one for a private hotel party because thats when things get weird. If they go to a club id be less worried.