Post # 77
I’m fine if there are strippers at a bachelors party or a guys night out – either a strip club or at home. I’m fine with him watching them, getting a lap dance, or whatever. I don’t feel ‘disrespected’ at all – I like to think of it as a live version of porn. Men (and women) are physical creatures and its only natural to be physically attractive to members of the opposite sex. But I also believe that most people have the ability to separate physical attraction from emotional attraction.
What WOULD bother me, is any sort of thing with feelings/romanticism involved with physicalness – kissing / getting a drink after the strip show / flirting, etc. Then it has the potential to involve into something more than just physical, and that i have a BIG problem with.
Post # 79
I wouldn’t marry him. If he needs other girls in his life then he’s not ready for marriage. I’ve been to strip clubs and an ex cheated on me with a stripper. If he needs that then he doesn’t need me.
Post # 80
DH is a huge prude and really anally retentive. He would be absolutely terrified by some woman shoving her tits in his face. For that reason, I told his best man that if he did hire strippers, I would be fine as long as I could see pictures of DH’s terrified face afterwards.
DH then told the best man that he would report any stripper for indecent exposure, if they showed up. He probably would have tried, as well.
Needless to say, there were no strippers.
Post # 81
@MrsPanda99: +1000 well, he’s not my husband yet, but I wouldn’t date someone who wanted to leer at naked women.
I learned years ago that you can’t make someone who wants to do the stripper thing not do the stripper thing, which is why I now date someone who has the same morals as me. If another women is ok with her husband going to a strip club then that is FINE by me, I’m not going to judge their relationship, but it has no place in mine. Strippers are absolutely cheating in my book because, like someone else said, if the same thing happened in a regular club, at home, or anywhere else that money wasn’t exchanged it would be cheating. There is no amount of money spent that makes it ok and honestly it almost makes it worse since we share finances that OUR money would be put toward him cheating. If someone else planned the event I would expect my man to A. tell them in the first place that he would not partake in anything to do with naked women and B. leave the party if there were naked women. Again, I wouldn’t date someone or marry someone who would argue this with me – I’m dating someone who thinks it is just as disgusting and wrong as I do.
Post # 82
@sarahfw: I don’t care if he goes to a strip club or even gets a lap dance. I did tell him that I’m not okay with any girls touching his face/neck. Totally random, but it feels intimate for me and I would definitely not like it.
That said, they aren’t going to a strip club, that he knows of. It was not one of his requested activities for the weekend, haha.
Post # 83
@sarahfw: I don’t care really, but then again I know he isn’t planning to have them…
Post # 84
I wouldn’t have cared if he went to a strip club (I’ve been LOTS of times myself, more instances than he has I’m sure) but I would have said no to bringing strippers to a hotel room or someone’s house.
DH went to Vegas and no strip clubs or strippers were involved, so it’s not a requirement! I wouldn’t have cared if they went to one, but that’s not really their thing.
Post # 85
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@sarahfw: I don’t care. She does all the work and I have all the fun. Win win to me.
Post # 86
@HisBride515: that sounds like so much fun! Me and SO went to a drag show when we went to key west, it was AWESOME. I get you. Me and my SO are a bit unique too. We don’t talk to half the couples around us in detail about our dynamic down here in the south because they’ll have a stroke if we’re too honest, lol.
Post # 87
I couldn’t care less. He’s not into strippers and has only been to a strip club once in his life prior, so if that’s what his guys planned, whatever. I had more important things on my mind to stress about potential strippers.
Post # 88
@southsun: Same here! Fiance and I are very eclectic so we keep to ourselves mostly, it’s hard to find couples that have similar interests & we’re in Southern Maryland.
Post # 89
@sarahfw: how is he cheating? he is not touching them at all. Unless you Fiance has a history of cheating, this shouldn’t be an issue.
Trust is key in a relationship and therefore, I have no issues bc I know DH would come home to me. He went to a stripclub and only because his Groomsmen wanted to. If he didn’t go to one, he wouldn’t have cared.
Post # 90
I will happily go to a strip club with Fiance. But I requested that he not have strippers if he has a bachelorette party. Getting married is not the end of the world for us, we can still go party and be crazy together, so neither of us really need a last hoorah.
Post # 91
I don’t really fit into any of your poll options, because I would never tell him not to, but I probably would not marry him if he wanted to. To me, it would just reveal a deep incompatibility.