(Closed) How would you feel if…

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

In this situation i’d probably be grateful. My So has a habit of telling me like it is and sometimes taking off my rosy colored glasses for me.

Nothing in particular has to happen for two friends to drift apart…sometimes it just happens.

Post # 4
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had a situation where my Bridesmaid or Best Man percieved there to be something wrong when there really wasn’t, so her previous “yes, I’ll be your BM” turned into her sitting on the fence for 3 months.  She complained we never talked anymore, but whenever I tried she always had an excuse.  The last straw was I emailed her and her Boyfriend or Best Friend (also in the party) and my fiancee explaining our schedule and to find a time to hang out.  Her Boyfriend or Best Friend flipped and basically told me that he told her not to contact me (which is funny, because he was complaining too and also made excuses).  They didnt want to fix the problem with us and I didnt want that negativity and wierd feeling with me and the other ‘maids (they experienced and felt the same way I did).

Its enough to make my head spin, but bottom line at the end of the day they backed out and I was left with the guilt and yet the weight off my shoulders.  The guilt comes because its hammered into your head not to let such things happen in weddings plus because I’m a ‘fixer’ and I couldnt fix it this time.  The relief is because the mysterious ‘fights’ won’t be happening anymore – including the week of my wedding!  At the end of the day it sounds like you are ok with it and accepted her backout graciously as she delievered it.  I think your FI’s actions were a blessing and he did what guys do best – was blunt and to the point.  It just worked out in your favor this time 🙂

Post # 5
5 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010


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