(Closed) How would YOU feel IF……..

posted 6 years ago in Money
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  • Post # 3
    5956 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    If you didn’t ask, she probably assumed you didn’t want or need it.  People contribute where and how they want, but nothing is mandatory, so it’s all generous.

    Post # 4
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Nope… It’s her son. You’re not her daughter, so I wouldn’t be bothered. She’s spending money on her son. If she were to offer you money, awesome, but I certainly wouldn’t expect it. Traditionally, the groom’s parents really only cover rehearsal dinner… if you want to talk traditions. 

    So… no, this wouldn’t bother me. She has no reason to give a future daughter in law money.

    Post # 7
    9667 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I wouldn’t be upset, she is paying for a part of the wedding, she has a choice for where she spends her money and she didn’t have to contribute at all. 

    Post # 8
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would have to agree with the PP. I think she did it because it was her son and it wasn’t like she was paying for a strip club show, so she probably felt comfortable with helping. Think of it as just a gift to him from his mom 🙂

    Post # 9
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Yeah that would bother me – but we’re not doing bachelor/bachelorette parties.

    It would irk me because I think those things are rubbish and a waste of money, and what is important is the wedding.  We’ve paid for everything ourselves – and don’t believe in silly old fashioned traditions about the bride’s family paying (for god’s sake it is 2013! I dont need a dowry!)


    However I can’t complain my Future Mother-In-Law is paying for around $800 worth of stuff just because I thought it was pretty but didn’t fit into my budget for the day.  So she offered to pay – because they wedding is about both bride and groom, and all of us, not just her son.

    Post # 11
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    While it is a little odd that she chose that to contribute to (bach parties are not usually expenses of the bride and groom), all and any donated money is just a bonus – as in nothing should be expected.


    Actually maybe she did this more for the 18 year old who doesn’t have the funds to do this himself?

    Post # 13
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @mjwyatt84:  That is great news!


    So I think she was waiting for us to ask and its totally my fault for assuming they didnt have the $$.

    You did right though by not asking.  You’re never supposed to ask for money, it’s up to her to step forward if she wants to not the other way around!

    Post # 15
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @mjwyatt84:  if you did not ask for help, you can’t really be offended

    Post # 16
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I would not be upset. But I think you’re right, maybe she does think you guys don’t need the money. IDK it makes sense to me. Also, have you considered that maybe she paid for the $600 because the 18 year old best man can’t afford to pay for the bachelor party. IDK it could be both.

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