Post # 1
Today is my engagement party and I was going to pick up my best friend (MOH) and she can’t be found. I was going to pick her up an hour away at her aunts house, she has no car. Then I saw on FB she was at a place that is 15 minutes from my house. Still no call or txt. She just txtd me right now that she’s drunk with her aunt and didn’t have her phone. And she’s back at her aunts, an hour away. I’m still haven’t got ready, leaving in about an hour,so I can’t pick her up anymore and she’s drunk anyways.
I’m just kinda hurt because its a very small group and she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor, I thought she’ll be there for sure, especially since I was going to pick her up. And she was 15 minutes away, she could’ve got dropped off at my place after. Not to mention that my cousin went to vegas at the last minute instead, which is fine, I don’t expect people to be forced to go but for my Maid/Matron of Honor to do this hurts. And she lives out of state, visiting for about over a month. She’s been here for 3 weeks now.
How would you feel and what would you do?
Post # 3
I would feel pretty hurt. The fact that she knew she had a responsibility today and got drunk would bother me the most. I am so sorry hun. I wish I knew what to tell you to do. I am just not good like that.
Post # 4
Ya no excuse… She knew today was ur party and decided to get drunk? That’s ridiculous
Post # 5
There is no excuse at all…she should have apologized profusely and it still would not have been acceptable. I would invite her to the wedding but explain that you need a Maid/Matron of Honor that is dependable. I am not having one of my oldest closest freinds because she would probably do somethign like this.
Post # 6
We’ve been friends for 20 yrs! since I was 8. I was actually deciding not to have a bridal party after all, it was just going to be her and my guy friend as my man of honor, but this just confirmed my decision.
Post # 7
I would definitely be upset, I’m sorry =(
Post # 8
She sounds like a shitty friend.
Post # 9
@echolove: I’d feel hurt. Since she had already committed to coming that was pretty irresponsible of her.
Post # 10
Has she actually said she isn’t coming? Maybe she has arranged to get to the party herself.
Whilst it is shitty that she did not get in contact with you about the lift, it is kind of unfair to say she didn’t show when the party has not even started yet. She may turn up.
Post # 11
You have every right to be pissed. She has really let you down.
She may however still show up ( hopefully not too drunk because would not be good)
Try not to let this spoil your night 🙂
Post # 12
My 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor (which was supposed to have been my BFF) did this exactly. I called her to see where she was. She was about an hour away, drunk and she said she didn’t have a babysitter for her son to be able to go. I still did not hold this against her. I didn’t want to kick her out of the wedding and ruin our friendship. Guess what she ended up doing? Sending me a FB message backing out of the wedding 4 months before the date… Yeah and that’s not the worst. She KNEW I was having computer trouble and I did not have internet access so I got the message a WEEK late!!! Expect for her to back out at the last minute. She has shown you she is not reliable.
Post # 13
@j_jaye: she doesn’t have a car, she’s an hour away and she’s drunk already. I know she’s not coming. Shd just said sorry.