- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
You are attending in the classroom type training and today is day 1. A 15 minute break has just passed and you are sitting at your desk. The last person to come in is in 2 minutes late. Instead of being pulled aside with a warning from your trainer, they’re “consequence” (as the trainer puts it) is to dance infront of the classroom for 30 seconds-1 minutes. Turns out, if you do anything against the room rules, such as if your cell phone goes off, or you have food, are late, or disrupt, you are made to dance, or do another daunting task infront of your newly met coworkers.
This isn’t a Chuck-E-Cheese or a quirky retail store, but a financial institution (aka a big ol’ bank). You’re not in jeans messing around with new friends, but a business suit. You’re not a 16 year old but a mid 20s year old, surrounded by other mid 20-30 year olds.
Is this shameless fun at work to break the heavy banking information loads youre getting? Or is it humiliation and belittlement that is rather unnecessary?
This was my job today. I have pretty severe social anxiety. I work over the phone in call centers because I generally get too flustered to function at face to face level with strangers or people I have met a handful of times. It takes me A LOT to open up… to the point when introducing myself to the class today, I turned bright red, couldn’t breathe, and stared at the floor just to have my voice crack and my nerves to be shot for the proceeding hour. I can hardly do that, let alone DANCE. I hardly dance infront of people I’ve known for years. I’m THAT self conscious.
If she told me that I had to do something in which the class stared, I don’t think I could handle it. I talked to my father about it and he promptly said “if she tells you to dance, tell her you’re not a monkey, and to meet you in HR.” I KNOW I can do this. The only time I can stand up for myself without fail is when I’m threatened or backed into a corner over something I don’t want to do. I don’t NEED this job. My SO told me after I almost broke down in tears after training today that if I was to be terminated over my dignity, he would be nothing but proud for me… then contact the senator in the family ha.
If it led to HR, do you think that I make a valid point? That a simple warning would be fine, but what I percieve as public humilation/harassment in front of my new peers? I don’t think I have that thin of skin, but I’m just not one to do these things in front of people, especially when forced. How would you react?