(Closed) How would you feel if you had wedding crashers?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: I would be upset if someone crashed my wedding... (3 part poll)

    1) at all

    2) and danced with the crowd

    3) and drew attention to themselves with their dancing

    4) and talked to my guests

    5) and drank from the bar

    6) and ate the food

    7) and ate cake/dessert

    8) and congratulated us (the bride and groom)

    9) I wouldn't be upset by any of it!

  • Post # 32
    Member
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I “crashed” a couple wedding Masses because our church schedules them at the same time they schedule confession… and I needed to go. Bad. There was actually a small line of people, it wasn’t just me.

    Of course as Aspasia said it’s not considered crashing to go to the nuptial Mass, you’re not allowed to have private exclusive Masses of any type. Anybody can always come and worship with you.

    It was definitely awkward, though… I was dressed in a skirt but NOT wedding clothes… and the bride and groom passed right by the confessional on their way out the door. I tried to make it better by smiling big at the bride. She looked at me like WTF.

    Post # 33
    Member
    645 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I posted this same story on another thread awhile back, but we totally had crashers. This older couple (30s-40s) who must have snuck in the side entrance (I was just arriving, so people were trickling in) and then, once I spotted them and got the “Who the F are those people?” look on my face, which they saw, scooted right back out that same entrance, drinks in hand. I was mildly annoyed but we had no shortage of drinks, so it’s all good. But their furtiveness makes me think they might have been well-practiced at crashing–maybe that’s their hobby! Haha.

    Post # 34
    Member
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I didn’t know them I would think it was hsyterical!

    If I knew them and had purposely NOT invited them…not so much. I’d show their asses to the door.

    Post # 35
    Member
    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We had crashers – 2 of them. Psuedo crashers. DH’s charming childhood chum (whom I’m vented about before on the Boards) randomly met 2 people at the Lodge and invited them to “a party.” They stayed for a bit while DH and I were out doing about 15 minutes of photos. They didn’t realize it was a wedding, and she was horrified when we walked in. She walked right up to DH and apologized, grabbed her husband and left. I was way more pissed off at the childhood chum then at them.

    Post # 36
    Member
    1261 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I have no idea how anyone would crash our 80 person, lodge-located-off-the-beaten path wedding, but I’d be impressed if they did. And I would tell them to leave since I’d have no idea where to put them.

    I accidentally crashed the wedding of my sister’s college friends when I was 14. My sister had RSVP’d for herself and then we all decided I would go too….and I don’t think she’d told them. When I realized they didn’t have a place setting for me I was mortified and at first refused to eat or drink anything since I hadn’t been invited.

    Post # 37
    Member
    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Honestly, if they were friends and family who had said “no” then came, no big deal.

    If they were people who we didn’t want there at all…. yeaaaaah, they’d be given the boot… 

    One good thing about wanting to have everyone we know reserve the cabins… it keeps the “riffraff” from showing up 😉  Also keeps the owners very happy with us and will probably let us get away with anything but murder… 😉 lol

     

    Post # 38
    Member
    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @MissHelen: We had a 60 person wedding in a Lodge in a small town in Alaska. And lo, 2 crashers. 🙂

    Post # 39
    Member
    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d be so damn paranoid that I don’t think I could ever pull it off easily!

    Post # 40
    Member
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I attended a wedding a couple years ago at a big hotel resort. There was an Indian wedding taking place next door and we snuck over to watch a little bit of it because it was so different and interesting! Just stood in a corner and didn’t eat or drink anything though.

    Post # 41
    Member
    775 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would be absolutely livid if someone crashed our wedding. We have very carefully selected our guestlist, and if you aren’t on it you are definately not welcome at our black tie event!

    Post # 42
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    If someone even managed to find the isolated ranch in the middle of nowhere thats 2 hours from anything where I’m getting married….well frankly sir, you’ve earned a cold one.

    Post # 43
    Member
    4460 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @ddw: I have crashed a wedding before. There were three weddings going on at this hotel my boss had his wedding. All three were large weddings (200+) so we snuck into the first wedding and had a blast! Then we snuck to the second wedding and actually got pulled into a dance by the brides family. (They were Greek) and then we went back our wedding and enjoyed the rest of the night. 

    This is the risk you run when you have a venue that hosts multiple weddings in one night. 

    Post # 44
    Member
    5191 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I would be horrified if someone crashed our wedding. It’s a 35 person guest list of our closest family and friends. We rented the entire Inn to assure our complete privacy. To have it crashed by a stranger would be an enormous insult.

     

    And I’ve never crashed a wedding. The thought would not even occur to me to go to an event without an invitation.

    Post # 45
    Member
    614 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Weddings are expensive! If someone uninvited took a seat and ate a 40 dollar plate of food….I would be livid! 

    Post # 46
    Member
    3628 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @Roux: This!

    The topic ‘How would you feel if you had wedding crashers?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors