(Closed) How would you feel if you had wedding crashers?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: I would be upset if someone crashed my wedding... (3 part poll)

    1) at all

    2) and danced with the crowd

    3) and drew attention to themselves with their dancing

    4) and talked to my guests

    5) and drank from the bar

    6) and ate the food

    7) and ate cake/dessert

    8) and congratulated us (the bride and groom)

    9) I wouldn't be upset by any of it!

  • Post # 47
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    10712 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t mind if we had people crash our wedding as long as they weren’t eating all the food and cake… we have a set amount for the guests. They can come and dance and talk and eat some candy… I’ve never crashed another wedding though.

    Post # 48
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    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would be livid. It’s a private event meant only for the invited friends and family of the bride/groom.

    Post # 49
    Member
    10627 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    2 guys crashed my wedding later into the night.  I didn’t care too much, they went straight to the dance floor.  I would have let them stay if that’s all what they would have done.  Some of in laws kicked them out right away though.

    I would have not been impressed if they drank or ate food, it was expensive as it was!  There’s also the worry about whether they are going to steal anything.

    I can’t imagine crashing someone’s wedding.

    Post # 50
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    2450 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    one of the reasons we decided on a destination wedding is because of this fear.

    i have a crazy aunt. i have cut her out of my life. i have cut my grandmother out also because of her taking my aunt’s side and letting her get away with all that she did. when we were planning an at-home wedding, i was terrified of them crashing. FH and I actually had discussed hiring security. In the end… destination wedding took away that fear.

    Post # 51
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    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    If they crashed after dinner for the party/dancing, then I say more the merrier! Haha, as long as they were respectful, I don’t think I’d care. Unless it was a person who I purposely did not invite for a specific reason… that’s a different story.

    Post # 52
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Haha I would find it hilarious! (Just so long as it was only 2 or 3 ppl). Honestly, at that point I am just going to be so happy and in love, I’d just be like “Nice to meet you! Thanks for coming!” And honestly the reason wedding crashers is a thing? Because usually nobody knows every single person at their wedding. I haven’t met all of my fiancee’s extended family, and I invited ppl she has never met, so we would just assume they were the spouse’s “people.” I loved the movie wedding crashers and I totally want to crash somebody else’s wedding! My fiancee and her sister crashed a wedding once, but by accident though. They were going to a wedding, and there were 2 weddings going on at the same time, and they went to the wrong one. (The one they were going to was a filipino wedding and in their culture I guess they invite like, everybody they know) so it was understandable that they would make a mistake like that since they didn’t know the other guests. They also said it was a good thing though because at the wedding they crashed they were able to eat and at the wedding they were invited to, they didn’t get to eat dinner for a couple of hours.

    Post # 52
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    769 posts
    Busy bee

    I mean, I would know if they did because I will know everyone at my wedding (no random plus ones). I would be mad if they ate the food or drank the alcohol or were in pictures. I’m paying good money for that stuff!

    Post # 53
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have “crashed” several weddings sort of. Just last weekend my boyfriend and I “crashed” one of his high school friends weddings. We weren’t invited to the wedding or reception because they had a small wedding but we were told to come for the dance after dinner was cleaned up (around 9pm). Where I am from it is common for people to have “open dances”. We were not expected to bring a present or anything it’s just they wanted us there to celebrate but couldn’t have us there for the whole thing do to space issues. Around here churches and reception halls are small. I know to many this would be insulting but to us it is common and I think it’s nice to be included in the dance when normally we wouldn’t of been able to get to come at all. Out here in the Midwest we are pretty laid back. Not all weddings are open bars and nobody is insulted by this, I actually laughed when bees posts get so heated over this because around here it’s normal. Also around here people don’t do send offs either. Receptions end at 2am and then there is usually an after party. It would be a shame to have the night end so soon.

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