Post # 1
Pretty simple question. If your friend got engaged, and you get proposed to two weeks later, how would that make you feel? Would you feel less excited, indifferent, or more excited? I’m in a very similar situation, and I don’t know how that would make a girl feel.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t be upset unless she was having the wedding on the same day or something, was overly annoying or showy about her ring or tried to say her stuff is better than yours somehow.
Post # 4
@Mrs Christopher: + 1
it depends what relationship you have with your friend.
Post # 5
If it was TRULY a friend and not one of those “frenimies” that I’ve had way too many of, I would be happy for her and go to wedding expos and dress shopping and whatever with her. It’d be especially nice if our dates were somewhat close together, so we would always be on the same page.
As long as she didn’t get jealous of the fact that my wedding was most important to me, it wouldn’t be an issue. I had a friend once who exploded on me because I was putting my relationship ahead of her wedding planning (I was supposed to be MOH). The problem was: the wedding was 2 full years away.
I kicked her to the curb real fast.
Post # 6
Actually, my best friend and I have been engaged at the same time, before. Both were bad and we got out.
Well, again, she was engaged and then I got engaged, too. For us, it was no big deal because she got married a few weeks ago and mine isn’t until June of 2013.
I’ve actually had a few friends get engaged /married recently. In one case, it’s SUCH a freaking blessing because she knows like EVERYTHING! She is a master DIY’er and has offered to do whole projects for my wedding with or without me. She looks up cheaper options for everything I find.
In another case, I was a little upset. Their wedding was GOING to be about a month before mine and they were going to have the same first dance song as me. We have A LOT of the same friends, and it would look like I was copying instead of it being this unique idea I’ve had since I was in like the 8th grade. (It’s a Metallica song) It turned out ok, though, because theirs ended up getting moved to the year after until she’s out of school.
I think it will end up being fun for you! You guys could split up vendors or go together when your FI’s decide they don’t want to do it, lol.
Post # 7
Thrilled – I’m actually dying for one of my oldest friends to get engaged and would have loved to do a double celebration with her. I’m annoyed her SO hasn’t proposed already to be honest, it’s ridiculous. I can’t imagine that I’d feel any other way for her. We are both 38 and it’s about time damnit!
Post # 8
My best friend probably is getting engaged soon and I think it will be awesome! Granted, neither of us are “The world must stop! I’m getting married!” type of people. If anything, I would feel less guilty about talking about wedding-related things all the time…because then it would be the first thing on her mind as well haha.
Post # 9
@DanikaFedeli: My situation is similar to yours. We both have the same circle of friends, and I’m just hoping this doesn’t come off as copying or playing 2nd fiddle to their happy engagement. If it hasn’t been made clear, I’m trying to propose to my girlfriend, and I just don’t want her moment to be any less magical than she imagined it. I’m a little bummed that my friend bumped up his proposal date that close to my plans, but if it doesnt seem like it’d affect many ladies, I’ll accept it and be happy for everyone.
Post # 10
@bellasperanza: That’s actually a good point. I didn’t think about how obnoxious it would be if one of them was still waiting and having to deal with their best friend talking about the wedding plans. Thanks for that!
Post # 11
Psyched! One of our closest couple friends just got engaged and I am pumped to have someone to do wedding stuff with! I hate annoying all my non-engaged, non-married friends with wedding talk all the time, so now I have someone to do it with that won’t get annoyed!
Post # 12
I was the friend that got engaged shortly after my long-time BFF. I also got married 3 mos before her. I felt somewhat guilty- but- whatever. It did cause some issues. She used her wedding as every possible excuse to make the other bridesmaids to pay for things in my wedding….. and I’ve not exactly spared any expenses for hers.
Post # 13
I would be happy for her and for myself.
Post # 14
One of my best friends and I DID get engaged within months of one another, and I LOVE it! She’s getting married in May and I’m getting married next October 🙂 We’re both bridesmaids in eachother’s weddings! We both get to chew eachother’s ears off with wedding talk instead of everyone else’s who just don’t understand and aren’t all excited about the nitty gritty details of wedding planning lol
Post # 15
I would love it! I don’t understand how some women are so selfish about engagements…share the love! No one can take away from my joy, only add to it.
Post # 16
My best friend got engaged 3 days after me. I couldn’t have been happier for her if I tried. It was so fun having someone to share that with who knew exactly how I was feeling. She’s married now, but I still look to her for guidance.