(Closed) How would you feel if your best friend got engaged around the same time as you?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How would becoming engaged shortly after your close friend affect you?

    I wouldn't like it because I wouldn't get as much attention.

    I wouldn't care. I'm engaged. Woohoo!

    That'd be awesome! I have someone to vent to and plan with!!

    I have no friends.

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    A good friend of mine got engage the same day!  Almost at the same time even.  Our fiance’s did not plan it, nor did the other know that they were both doing it the same day.  After my fiance and I got engaged, we called our local family and were going to wait until the next day to tell our friends because we wanted to tell his family on the East Coast first.  So we finally settled in for the night and then I got a call from my friend M.  She was over the moon and I let her tell her whole story, then I said ‘are you sitting down, because guess what?”  We had the best time planning our weddings and having each other there through the whole process.  We even went to try on dresses together (so much fun!).  We planned very different weddings, on different timelines and both of us found it fun and exciting to be going through our engagements and planning together.

    My engagement happend during my younger sister’s engagement (she was not as happy aboout it until she realized that my wedding would be a year later and we have very different tastes and budgets).  But in the end we were able to share tips, advice, and supplies. 

    I also have two very close friends that got engaged a few months after me.  It has been amazing to have these two friends to talk to about engagements, wedding planning, wedding stresses, and post wedding.  I was the first to get married, the next one is in two weeks, and the other is in two months.  Having them be there and go through the process with me brought us closer, and I could not imagine it any different. It has been great to have people to ask questions to, provide advise, give tips, share vendors, and watch three friends plan amazing weddings together, but have them all turn out very different and wonderful in their own way.

    Maybe I am weird, maybe I just like really my friends, maybe, I am super laid back, or maybe I just like weddings!  But having a number of good friends and my sister all be engaged and have all of our weddings within a year was so much fun and I couldn’t imagine it any other way! 

     

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @MrNavidson:  Good luck!  I am sure it will.  Have fun!  🙂

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would be really excited for my friend but I’m the one who got engaged 5 months after one of my bestfriends did.

    Believe it or not but I was afraid to tell her ! lol

    When she arrived at my place, I didn’t say anything, I was uncomfortable and she figured it out just by the way I was acting.

    When I told her I was afraid to tell her, she said that I was crazy and that I wasn’t stealing her thunder.

    The truth is : she knows EVERYTHING ! lol She’s getting hitched in May,2013 and believe me, she’s a pro ! It’s such a blessing to have her by my side, I wouldn’t change it for the world.

    Post # 21
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Myself and two of my girlfriends all got engaged within 3 weeks of each other. I love that I have people to talk wedding planning with, without boring my married and non engaged friends.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would have loved it! It was nice to talk to people who had been through the wedding planning before but it would have been really great to plan it with someone at the same time. I am also not very showy so I wouldnt mind having some of the attention off of me!

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hahah.  It’s a little Bride Wars.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee

    I’d be happy, we could go through everything together which is nice. Although I would be annoyed if it came off as competitive.

    Post # 25
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would love that.  My best friend and I are so completely different in taste & style that I do not think it would be a problem.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If its her best friend then most girls would find that awesome! Any girl that would get upset by that is selfish enough to think that from that day until their wedding day needs to be all about them. 

    If that had happened to me and my bestie then I would have a blast doing everything with her, although I would make sure that we didn’t plan completely similar weddings and our colours were different and the wedding days were far enough apart to prevent us both getting overtly stressed at the same time. I’m already doing most of my brainstorming with my Maid/Matron of Honor, who’s my best friend, and then bringing the top ideas to my Fiance for his opinion on what he prefers, he is very opinionated about our wedding.

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I know how I would feel because it happened to me. A good friend of mine got engaged 5 days after me. I was just happy that I was engaged but it wasn’t a case of planning together either. Early on we had an is

    sue when she booked 2 weeks before us and also she picked the same colors that I had already told her I picked so from that point I stopped sharing details and so did she. We were still friends and stuff we just didn’t discuss the wedding.

    We’re still friend and I went to her wedding 2 weeks ago, it was gorgeous and luckily she went with different colors and everything turned out ok but we both just found that “planning together” wasn’t something we wanted to do.

     

    ETA- She’s not my BEST friend .. so maybe that makes a difference? Still I would think even with a bestie it would sort of end up compared and wouldn’t be fun especially if your budget was less than your friends.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My bestie got engaged on the exact same day as me! We were both so so excited, it really solidified our friendship. No jealously at all. However, she planned and got married in 4 months and I have to wait until mid next year (that will be 18 months) so our time difference is huge.

    But seriously, why would I be jealous? That is ridiculous and I feel sorry for anyone who is that self centred and me me me!! Blah

    I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and she will be mine, we are both super lucky to have each other 🙂

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’d be pumped if my best friend had gotten engaged around the same time as me! I would have a wedding planning buddy!

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I got engaged just a couple of months after my really good friend, and one of my bridesmaids just got engaged a few months after me.  I have TONS of friends and acquaintances who are getting engaged and married.  I feel like once you reach age 24 and up (at least in my cirlce of friends), you should just expect this sort of thing to happen!  As long as people don’t schedule the weddings on the same day/weekend, what’s the big deal?  It’s exciting!

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    This has happened to me…my cousin and one of my best friends got engaged after we did. My friend and her Fiance were genuinely ready, and heading down that path to engagement, and I am so happy for them…My cousin pressured her Fiance to propose because I was engaged, so her those two, I am less than thrilled because their engagement came from a different place. Two weeks after an engagement is really quick, to get engaged IMO….If I knew my boyfriend was going to propose, and one of my best friends just got engaged, I would hint to him that another 2 weeks to have a month in between would maybe be better. 

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