(Closed) How would you feel if your Husband wasn't wearing w-ring??

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband doesn’t wear his ring often because he will put it down and lose it if he is out.  Honestly a piece of metal on his hand isn’t the definition of our marriage.

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Rivendeler:  It sounds to me like he just isn’t used to wearing a ring. Most guys that I know NEVER wear rings… so getting used to one takes some time. Is he committed in every other way? Is he showing any signs of not wanting to be married? If not, then I think you have nothing to worry about.

Post # 6
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be hurt. Maybe if you tell him how you feel he will make more of an effort to keep it on more.

Post # 7
9655 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I would be upset, very upset. Yes it is just a piece of metal, but to me it is a symbol of the marriage, and your commitment to each other, announcing to the rest of the world that you are taken 🙂

Post # 8
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

FIs father doesn’t wear his wedding ring ever so I feel like Fiance won’t always wear his either. He also has to take his off for work (he works with fine art and may damage the art or the framing) but I hope he wears his daily and just takes it off and leaves it in a bowl on his desk or something while at work

Post # 9
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d be pissed (personally). It’s a symbol of your love, committment and marriage and he should be proud wearing it every day. If he takes it off to shower, or work with tools etc I understand that (mine takes his off to play hockey, as it gets loose and falls off in his glove) but it goes right back on after the game.

I wouldn’t like it… plain and simple. I am so happy to wear my rings every single day, and proud to be his wife – I  want to show people that I’m taken and that is that. I know my husband feels the same and I would most definitely be dissapointed/upset if he decided not to wear his.

Sorry you are going through this!

Post # 10
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

My ex husband stopped wearing his ring.  My ex husband.

Talk to him about it.  Ask if it needs to be sized or he wants something else.  Yes, a wedding ring may not be important to him and no wearing it will not prevent a man from cheating (or women form flirting with with him) but culturally it does say that he’s married.  I was very uncomfortable about the ring issue but I didn’t make a big deal about it and now I wish I would have brought it up that it bothered me.  I just hid the ring from him and waited to see how long it would take for him to ask me if I had seen it; he never did.

Post # 11
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Darling Husband has worn his ring maybe a dozen times in 2 yrs. It bothered me when he used to say something about it before we got married and now I could honestly care less. He puts it on for special events and holidays but that’s it. I have girlfriends whose husbands never take their rings off but they treat their wives terrible, so as long as he’s good to mean I don’t care much about the ring. My papa was a fishermas and never wore a wedding ring and he was married for 60 years before he passed.

Post # 12
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’ll admit that the wedding ring thing is important to me, but I think it also makes a difference that wearing the ring is important to my husband, too. If we weren’t on the same page about it, I’d try to find a way to compromise, e.g. wear the ring out but take it off at home, etc.

Also, in case this is something you could bring up — my husband has two wedding bands, his white gold one that he wears most of the time, and a tungsten carbide one that he wears when he’s working with his hands and is afraid of damaging the gold one. The tungsten carbide one was really cheap, and it allows him to still wear a wedding band without worrying about damaging it.

Post # 13
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wouldn’t mind if he didn’t want to wear the ring. But, I would be annoyed that he was lying about not wearing it, and that he wasted the money on buying it!

Post # 14
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would probably be upset by that too. I would honestly just talk to him about it. Tell him that it upsets you and ask if there is a reason he doesn’t like wearing the ring.

Post # 15
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My Dh rarely wears his ring to work and then just forgets to put it on after.  He doesn’t mean anything by it at all and I could care less.  I don’t really care if the rest of the world knows that I am married or not.  We made our vows to each other and in front of all of the people who actually matter.

His Dad doesn’t even have a wedding ring.  Men didn’t start wearing wedding rings until fairly recent times. 

Post # 16
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think a LOT of men don’t wear their rings these days — it’s not really frowned upon by society in general anymore (doesn’t Prince William not wear his ring?) so a lot of guys just leave it in a drawer if it annoys them, which it will if they never fully get used to it. The husband of a dear friend of ours doesn’t wear his ring, and it doesn’t bother her one bit. She only wears hers to work, anyway.

That being said, I told Darling Husband in no uncertain terms that I expected him to wear his wedding ring. I don’t care that Dan doesn’t wear his and that his wife doesn’t care. It’s important to me, and that’s that! So he wears it.

I would just make sure your husband fully understands how important it is to you. I know soooo many men who don’t wear theirs these days; it’s possible your husband also knows a lot of people like that and just doesn’t get why it’s a big deal!

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