Post # 1
He wore it everyday during the honeymoon. When we returned, i could tell he would take it out before shower and going to bed. I get it, it’s a little loose and he was afraid of droping it..then he started taking it out afraid he would scratch it at work..his son started teasing him about it, telling me how he didn’t used it while they were both working away (2 weeks..)..yesterday i did look for the ring on his finger and didn’t see it so i asked. He said oh, you know how i take everything off once i arrive home..right..i didn’t lik eit, honestly and remember thinking it would be a good idea to pick up the ring and put it on top of his wallet so he would see it before he left the house. Then went to bed. That was last night. he has just called me asking if i had meant anything by asking about his ring..because he wasn’t finding it anywhere! “???”
*sigh*.. i admit i don’t like it. First thought ” Humm..he still has some issues about being married now”, second thought “It doesn’t matter what he wears, it’s his heart and attitude that matters”, third thought “what if i sleepwalked and hid the ring somewhere, since i was thinking about it before i went to sleep??”
How would you feel?
Post # 3
My husband doesn’t wear his ring often because he will put it down and lose it if he is out. Honestly a piece of metal on his hand isn’t the definition of our marriage.
Post # 4
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: i know, i kind of feel like that but i am a little hurt about it..weirdly enough..
Post # 5
@Rivendeler: It sounds to me like he just isn’t used to wearing a ring. Most guys that I know NEVER wear rings… so getting used to one takes some time. Is he committed in every other way? Is he showing any signs of not wanting to be married? If not, then I think you have nothing to worry about.
Post # 6
I would be hurt. Maybe if you tell him how you feel he will make more of an effort to keep it on more.
Post # 7
I would be upset, very upset. Yes it is just a piece of metal, but to me it is a symbol of the marriage, and your commitment to each other, announcing to the rest of the world that you are taken 🙂
Post # 8
FIs father doesn’t wear his wedding ring ever so I feel like Fiance won’t always wear his either. He also has to take his off for work (he works with fine art and may damage the art or the framing) but I hope he wears his daily and just takes it off and leaves it in a bowl on his desk or something while at work
Post # 9
I’d be pissed (personally). It’s a symbol of your love, committment and marriage and he should be proud wearing it every day. If he takes it off to shower, or work with tools etc I understand that (mine takes his off to play hockey, as it gets loose and falls off in his glove) but it goes right back on after the game.
I wouldn’t like it… plain and simple. I am so happy to wear my rings every single day, and proud to be his wife – I want to show people that I’m taken and that is that. I know my husband feels the same and I would most definitely be dissapointed/upset if he decided not to wear his.
Sorry you are going through this!
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
My ex husband stopped wearing his ring. My ex husband.
Talk to him about it. Ask if it needs to be sized or he wants something else. Yes, a wedding ring may not be important to him and no wearing it will not prevent a man from cheating (or women form flirting with with him) but culturally it does say that he’s married. I was very uncomfortable about the ring issue but I didn’t make a big deal about it and now I wish I would have brought it up that it bothered me. I just hid the ring from him and waited to see how long it would take for him to ask me if I had seen it; he never did.
Post # 11
Darling Husband has worn his ring maybe a dozen times in 2 yrs. It bothered me when he used to say something about it before we got married and now I could honestly care less. He puts it on for special events and holidays but that’s it. I have girlfriends whose husbands never take their rings off but they treat their wives terrible, so as long as he’s good to mean I don’t care much about the ring. My papa was a fishermas and never wore a wedding ring and he was married for 60 years before he passed.
Post # 12
I’ll admit that the wedding ring thing is important to me, but I think it also makes a difference that wearing the ring is important to my husband, too. If we weren’t on the same page about it, I’d try to find a way to compromise, e.g. wear the ring out but take it off at home, etc.
Also, in case this is something you could bring up — my husband has two wedding bands, his white gold one that he wears most of the time, and a tungsten carbide one that he wears when he’s working with his hands and is afraid of damaging the gold one. The tungsten carbide one was really cheap, and it allows him to still wear a wedding band without worrying about damaging it.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t mind if he didn’t want to wear the ring. But, I would be annoyed that he was lying about not wearing it, and that he wasted the money on buying it!
Post # 14
I would probably be upset by that too. I would honestly just talk to him about it. Tell him that it upsets you and ask if there is a reason he doesn’t like wearing the ring.
Post # 15
My Dh rarely wears his ring to work and then just forgets to put it on after. He doesn’t mean anything by it at all and I could care less. I don’t really care if the rest of the world knows that I am married or not. We made our vows to each other and in front of all of the people who actually matter.
His Dad doesn’t even have a wedding ring. Men didn’t start wearing wedding rings until fairly recent times.
Post # 16
I think a LOT of men don’t wear their rings these days — it’s not really frowned upon by society in general anymore (doesn’t Prince William not wear his ring?) so a lot of guys just leave it in a drawer if it annoys them, which it will if they never fully get used to it. The husband of a dear friend of ours doesn’t wear his ring, and it doesn’t bother her one bit. She only wears hers to work, anyway.
That being said, I told Darling Husband in no uncertain terms that I expected him to wear his wedding ring. I don’t care that Dan doesn’t wear his and that his wife doesn’t care. It’s important to me, and that’s that! So he wears it.
I would just make sure your husband fully understands how important it is to you. I know soooo many men who don’t wear theirs these days; it’s possible your husband also knows a lot of people like that and just doesn’t get why it’s a big deal!