How would you go about this?

posted 2 months ago in Career
Post # 2
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

Something similar happened to me with jobs. I think you need to be blunt with the first job you really want. This is your career. Tell them the first time just wasnt the right timing for you. You have always had interest in the company and that is why you came back to interview. I would keep contacting the first company and ask for updates. Call HR yourself and ask if you interview months prior and not accepting the offer makes you not able to be hired. They can’t jsut make stuff up there is protocol. Follow up with an email to the manager thinking him and expressing your extreme interest again.

The second job…. is this a prestigious place do you care what they really think? Would burning bridges with them ruin anything for you!  Could you possibly accept this job and then resign when you hear back from the next one. You have to do what you have to do for yourself and family. 

What I have done before is accepted the job I didn’t want and a few weeks later got the one I wanted and I peaced out the first job. You have to do what’s best for you. Just make sure you look over contract you shouldn’t be penalized from resigning from a job. 

travelingb02 :  

Post # 5
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

Accept the retail position for sure. Who cares about burning their brdges. Then stay on top of the  job you really want. I wouldn’t mention salary because of the situation I would get my foot in the door first. I’m sure once they see your work they will increase your salary anyways. Just make sure in your email to manager you explain how the company stands for everything you believe in and you value what they do. You have always wanted to be a part of that because you feel like your skills will be an asset the company. Explain the timing is right now and you are ready to jump in fully with the job.rtravelingb02 :  

Post # 7
8973 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

travelingb02 :  The problem with saying the timing wasn’t right means they could see you as a time waster. I mean if the timing wasn’t right why apply and interview? The HR dept will know it is a bs excuse. You are unreliable to them which is not a desirable attribute for an employee.

Actions have consequences, especially in the business world. Accept the job offer you have recieved as an actual job is better than no job.

Edit: yes it cost them money. Screening applicants, reading resumes/applications, interviewing and initial background checks cost a business time and money.

Post # 8
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Don’t accept the retail job if it’s not a good fit for you (honestly it sounds like a step backward), unless you desperately need the money right now. I would contact the first company (cc’ing HR) and let them know that you’re really excited about the opportunity, wanted to let them know they’re your first choice, but you have another offer and need to let the second company know your decision very soon. It’s BS that HR wouldn’t consider you “hireable” because you previously turned down a different position there. That’s not a thing that HR does. It sounds like the manager holds a weird grudge about it. 

I think Allison Green of Ask a Manager probably has some good advice around situations like yours; if you haven’t checked out her blog before, I highly recommend it.

Post # 9
6839 posts
Busy Beekeeper

travelingb02 :  you turned down the other job not the company. You clearly interviewed because you were interested in the company but you felt that the other role wasn’t a good fit for you which is why you turned it down. Interviews are two way streets and a company that expects every applicant to accept a job is silly. I’ve turned down job offers too because I didn’t like what I learned in the interview. It’s totally normal and doesn’t mean you were intentionally wasting their time. 

Post # 11
778 posts
Busy bee

mrsptobe2017 :   LilliV :  I like both of these responses and would blend them. Definitely let the manager and HR know that you have another offer outstanding, but that their company is your first choice for x, y, and z reason. THEN add that the previous job wasn’t the right fit for you, which is why you declined, but this job IS for x, y, and z reasons. Tell them why you will be the perfect fit and that you would very much look forward to be able to work for them. 

Post # 12
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I would be a little skeptical that the “dream job” wouldn’t hire you because you turned down an offer. All you had to say was that after interviewing you realized that position wasn’t a good fit, but you are really excited about the new position and you feel it is a better fit for you. TBH, it feels like the new manager would hold a grudge about this, and it is extremely immature. Good managers realize that not every job fits every person that interviews. I would be a little suspicious of working for this person in the future. 

Normally I would say don’t take the retail job if it is a step backwards, just slog it out at your current company and continue to look elsewhere. But since you have already left, I would accept it and you can always back out at a later date if you get offered another job. 

I would email the HR rep and the hiring manager at the company you are looking at and just ask if there is a policy that would not allow them to present a second offer after you turned one down. And restate why you feel like you would be an excellent fit for this position and what you would bring to the team. See how they respond. 

Also, let this be a lesson to not quit a job unless you have something else lined up. If you hadn’t left you could wait for the good offer to come in and not have to take something just to have a job. 

Post # 14
1131 posts
Bumble bee

Im curious what was the reason you gave for turning down the job? Did they actually make a formal offer or just said they’d like to proceed with the next steps (ie testing and checks etc)? How can they make an offer of employment if they haven’t done the checks? Because it doesn’t sound like you even progressed that far and it was just one interview? I just find it odd that this previous manager and the company as a whole take the “rejection” so personally and so seriously.  

I’ve been to many interviews where either party decided the other isn’t the right fit for that job, and that’s ok. Thats the whole point of interviews. I’d be worried about the culture in this company if a begrudging manager’s opinion has such weight on another areas hiring decisions.

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