(Closed) How would you handle this?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


If you mean New York City, and you’re not living there, you may want to reconsider either the location or the timeframe, as December in NYC is a pretty expensive time for anyone to travel.  NYC hotels get full with holiday shoppers, so the room rates go way up even if you book in advance.  Picking a random Saturday in mid-December 2012, I’m seeing rates over $400/night for a Hilton-level hotel— nice hotel but not five-star luxury.  It’s going to be an expensive trip for anyone who travels, not just his parents, and that’s a very big thing to factor in.  Of course if it’s just his family that has to travel, and most of your family and friends already are local, it becomes less of a deal-breaker.  

For his parents, I’d just ask them if they’d be willing and able to travel then, and not try to guess. But do keep in mind you’re picking a peak time in a city that is already really expensive, and that will pare down your attendance.

Post # 4
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I think you shouldn’t worry about it until you offically get engaged…but on the plus side your wedding is first

Post # 5
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think until you are engaged and you can have a conversation with his parents you wont know.

You might find that with enough notice they will be able to come, and you could always look at things that might help spread the cost e.g. renting an apartment for a week rather than staying in a hotel.

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