Post # 1
I have a friend I see from time to time, but she’s not super close. She has asked to be one of my bridesmaids multiple times, but I have already decided on my closest friends and family. I tried multiple times to gently tell her that I have already selected my bridesmaids and I would love to see her attend as a guest. The other night I saw her at a bar, and she was pretty intoxicated. She made passive aggressive comments such as, “who are your bridesmaids? because I know IM NOT ONE OF THEM!!” and then proceeded to tell me how excited she was for my wedding, how she’s going to get “so wasted” and then she judged aspects of my wedding. I was honestly flabbergasted at her comment about the bridesmaid thing because I thought she’d get over it by now (I told her months ago) and I also don’t want her to make a drunken fool of herself and cause a scene. I already told her she’s invited, so she’s expecting an invitation. I think if she makes one more comment like this I think I’m going to need to have a conversation with her. How would you handle this? Thanks.
Post # 2
junebride62317 : I’d just back off the friendship. Sounds like there’s not much there anyway. I doubt a conversation would make a difference. She’s being who she is, and I’d let her be that person, just without me as a friend. As for the invitation, see how you feel in a couple months. If you don’t invite her, it will probably be the nail in the coffin but it sounds like you’re probably ok with that.
Post # 3
Why does she want to be your bridesmaid so much? What is the relation/history with this woman?
Do you value keeping her as a friend? If you don’t really, you can basically have a friend break-up (either by avoiding her or talking to her) and have her not come to your wedding.
Post # 4
junebride62317 : I think you should have a conversation with her now. She’s behaving completely inappropriately – no one should ever assume they’re going to be in a wedding or even invited, until they are.
Does she feel a lot closer to you than you do to her? That’s the one thing I can think of, that it’s not so much about being a bridemaid but more that she realized that you two aren’t as close as she thought?
Post # 5
Take my advice, please don’t let someone come to you’re wedding after making comments like that. You’re day is about you & your SO. So please leave the rude drunk girl who likes to make passive aggresive comments at home.
Just don’t send and invitation; delete her from social media and enjoy you’re day!
Post # 6
annelise210516 : we were close in high school, but we had a falling out at the end of senior year. We reconnected when I started college but were never as close as we were in high school. We began to hang out with different types of people and live different lifestyles. Sometimes I’ll catch up with her for a drink like twice a year, but I don’t text her or call her regularly. I never expected her to feel this way though.