- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I post regularly on Weddingbee, but am posting this anonymously because I’ve written enough personal information that I’m afraid of being recognized!
I’m in a sort of awkward situation with one of my family members right now. My cousin and I were really close when I was growing up, but he is ten years older than me and so we lost touch for quite some time besides family gatherings. He moved to a different state for university, and although he moved back to the area, I’ve only seen him maybe once a year at family events.
Now we live in the same town again, and my fiance and I hung out with him today. We all get along really well, but as silly as it sounds, I’m having a hard time knowing how to make that transition to being friends. He doesn’t talk about himself much, and has always been a really private person – and I don’t know how to ask about his life, or if I should just respect his privacy?
He has never brought anyone to family gatherings, etc, probably because some members of our family are fairly homophobic. Most of my friends are so willing to talk about their lives – I say “how are you?” or “what’s been going on in your life?” and they volunteer all this information! I know my cousin’s not uncomfortable talking to Fiance and me, because he invited us over. He’s said he wants to hang out, and so I don’t think it’s that he doesn’t want to talk. I just don’t know if it’d be weird to ask personal questions? He’s like a brother to me, and we never really talked about anything other than family or small talk before, but it’s very awkward just talking about superficial things. We usually bonded over our sarcasm lol. He never really wants to talk about work, because he doesn’t work in his dream job, just a 9-5.
Do I sound ridiculous? I’m fairly certain I’m overthinking this. I wish I was one of those people who wasn’t socially awkward!