- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
We’re planning to marry on May 19, 2012. At this point not much is set in stone and it actually won’t be until several months before the wedding when we will find out for sure if we’re staying in SoCal or if we’ll have to move it elsewhere (thank you, military). We have the date that will be 95% sure to work, as long as other things we’re trying to work around (deployment, immigration) don’t veer too far off course. It’s not set in stone, but we’re fairly certain. We are having a small ceremony in SoCal and doing receptions-like things in NJ (where he’s from) and Ontario, Canada (where I’m from) but those definitely do not have dates.
We plan on sending out inviations to all our family and close friends, understanding that most will not be coming due to financial strains. We want them to know that they are invited even if they aren’t able to come.
1) Do we sent out Save-The-Date Cards for everyone, or just try to spread it through word of mouth? Should we do an engagement announcement instead? We’re probably talking 50 or so people, most of whom we assume will not attend. We will send out formal invitations when we have the details firmed up.
2) How do we word that there will be parties in our respective hometowns? Something along the lines of: For those unable to attend the wedding there will be a casual reception in the following months in ___(insert NJ or Ontario, depending on the guest)
3) Should we allude to the fact that the exact date and location are subject to change and more information will be provided as we know it, or should we just have that passed along word of mouth as well?
I want our potential guests to know there’s a plan for a wedding in the spring, probably on May 19, 2012 and that they’re invited but that there’s no pressure to attend.