Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
Im asking about something that my cousin asked me about yesterday and I was curious how you all feel about it…..
My cousin has a daughter who is in the 2nd grade. they have a morning snack that is sent with them to school and is a snack chosen by the parents. Her teacher sent a note home saying that it should be a healthy snack since they do not encourage the kids eating junk food. My cousin was rushing the other morning and forgot about the snack the night before so quickly she just grabbed 2 cookies and put them in a baggie. the teacher took the cookies away and her daughter did not get a snack and the teacher sent a note home explaining that she doesnt approve of sugary snacks like cookies so my niece did not get a snack that day.
I was livid when I heard this. Not because I think cookies are an oh so great snack but if it was my kid and I let himher take cookies thats my choice. Im the mom and I feel like that teacher (while i think her intentions are good) was over stepping her boundaries by a lot. Keep in mind this is not a rule the school has, just this particular teacher (the school lunches even sometimes include sugar cookies or something as a small dessert). My cousin was so upset with how this was handled and I was wondering how you all would handle this? would you be upset too?
Post # 3
Oh I’d be livid too! Your cousin needs to call her daughters teacher and ask her why she things she has the right to take away a childs food! I’m sure your cousins daughter was embarressed too!
Post # 4
I would be talking to the teacher and the principal. She has no right to dictate an appropriate snack. What if those were sugar free cookies?
Post # 4
I’d be furious as well. I understand the teacher’s logic and what she’s trying to do, but she just punished the child for something her parent did. Not acceptable in my opinion. You had better believe that I would not only inform that teacher that I will give my child the snack of MY choice, but I will also let the principal know the same thing. You do not tell me how to parent my child.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
she was!!! she said her daughter said that she starting crying because she thought she did something wrong and that she was getting punished by having her snack time taken away. She got to still sit with the other kids but had no snack. The teacher actually sent the cookies home with her with the note attached to the bag.
Post # 6
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Post # 7
I’ve been a kindergarten teacher many times and this is standard practice, but I think that the big issue wouldn’t have happened if there had been proper communication. (Explanation about the snack policy on first day of school, and a more subtle reaction to this first day of no-healthy snack).
I, personally, would have let the child have the cookie because it is the ‘healthiest thing you have today’. But I would also follow-up with a note reminding about the policy and examples of acceptable foods that most kids tend to bring. I know that it does upset some parents, so I try to be really kind and casual in my note about it, but the food does need to be healthy.
Kids today have a lower life expectancy than their parents, and it is primary because of poor nutrition and lack of exercise. The schools have been asked to help out with this issue. It is standard practice at all schools I have taught at that we eat healthy foods at first snack.
The monitoring of this practice usually begins to wane as the children get older, where it is most enforced in kindergarten.
My 2 cents.
Post # 8
That is completely unacceptable. I would be on the phone with the principal immediately. She basically deprived this little girl of a snack, and kept her hungry because the snack didn’t meet her personal approval. That poor child.
Post # 9
I think it sucks that the little girl didn’t get a snack that day, but many teachers have classroom rules, and the parent was informed about it ahead of time. My aunt teaches kindergarten, and she sends home a list of classroom rules at the start of every school year. If parents forget or choose not follow the rules, she sends the kids home. No exceptions. It isn’t fair for kids, who really have no power in the situation, but if parents read the rules and don’t agree with them, they should protest it right away. Waiting to bring up objections until afterward makes it pretty difficult to enforce the rules with all the other families.
Post # 10
Agreed. I don’t think it’s right she took her food away! So the poor girl was starving till lunch? I can understand if one of your students continually getting unhealthy snacks and sending a note home as concern. But it’s still not her business.
I would have a talk with the teacher as well!
Post # 11
As a parent, I would handle it by writing a note back explaining that I had slipped up with the cookie, but was also disappointed with the way that it was handled, and that my daughter should not have been punished for my mistake.
Post # 12
I would be LIVID. I would be calling the principal. My daughter is on a gluten free diet, and let me tell you, if anyone dares touch her food there will be hell from me!
Post # 13
Oh hell no. If it not a school wide policy, it was handled inappropriately. I am so sick of people telling parents what their kids should be eating- no one knows the individual circumstances of the child/household.
For example- my daughter is in the 5th weight percentile. She eats healthy and often, but she is blessed with a superhigh metabolism. Her pediatrician doesn’t want her to drop any lower so he said to let her have WHATEVER she wants (after she eats her healthy meal of course). So if she wanted she could have ice cream or cookies after everymeal. She NEEDS the extra calories and fat.
That teacher needs to STFU. Oooooooooo that makes my blood boil.
Post # 14
Did your cousin know that was their policy? I know you said the teacher “doesn’t approve” of sugary snacks, but I didn’t see anything about them being forbidden. Big difference. If your cousin just knew that they weren’t recommended, I would be furious.
Post # 15
While the schools in our area are anti-sugary things, and don’t even do cupcakes for bday parties anymore, this teacher totally stepped over the line.
If anything she should have sent another reminder home to the PARENTS… not make the child go without eating. That’s absolutely ridiculous… what’s a 2nd grader supposed to do “NO mom, I can’t have that b/c Mrs. xxxx will take it away.”
I would go straight to the principle… alot of times, talking to just the teacher doesn’t help.