(Closed) How would you handle this?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you cave to Uncle A's request?
    Yes, obviously he feels strongly about not sitting with Uncle X. : (29 votes)
    73 %
    No, it really shouldn't be a big deal for him to sit at the same table. : (10 votes)
    25 %
    Other - see comments below. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    9672 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If possible, I would change the seating arrangements and put Uncle Obnoxious with some strangers – maybe he’ll have the dignity to keep his trap shut if he doesn’t know the people well enough to start griping about his ex.

    Sorry you’re having to deal with grown men behaving like immature kids.  But for your own sake it’s probably best to keep these guys separate to avoid any drama on your big day.

    I wish you all the best!

    Post # 4
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think do your best not to seat them together – they may be brothers, but you don’t know the extent of their relationship and their ups and downs. It may be that they really struggle to talk for an hour without arguing.

    Post # 5
    12973 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would do my absolute best to not seat them together.  I would do anything I could to make my guests comfortable, and obviously Uncle A would be uncomfortable seated with Uncle X.

    Post # 7
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MissNachoLover:  I would not seat them together. He has asked you and although you may think it is rude that he even asked you, I am pretty sure its ruder if you just ignore his request (sent three times!)… 
    Best of luck!!  

    Post # 8
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m sorry but I would make the arrangements. It doesn’t matter if he is an uncle or a co-worker. If someone at your wedding requests NOT to be seated by someone, it is for a reason. You should take it into consideration so that whomever it is requesting something like this, doesn’t get sat by someone they can’t stand and is allowed to enjoy themselves. You will be sat by those you want to be sat by, you should give your guests the same curtesy. Besides, what trouble is it to you that the seating isnt “what you have in your head”? Your not sitting with these guests, it won’t actually affect you any. You understand what I’m saying?

    Post # 9
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Clearly it is an issue for him– there could be a lot more drama/backstory that you’re not aware of; if it was a trivial request he would have asked once… the fact that he’s asked 3 times says this is a serious matter to him.  Is it really that much to ask to make a quick adjustment? In the long run it’ll likely make the whole evening better if the 2 of them don’t have a chance to get into an argument.  

    Post # 10
    6349 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    From what I can gather, you haven’t yet drawn up or printed a seating plan. With that in mind, plus the fact that he has emailed 3 times, so obviously feels quite strongly about it, I really don’t see why it’s so hard to seat them separately.

    Our guests comfort is important to us, and that for us includes consdiering who people would and wouldn’t like to be seated with. If anyone doesn’t get on great, we’ll be seating them at separate tables.

    Post # 11
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    seat them at different tables.  If Uncle A feels this strongly I think it would be a nice thing to do.

    Post # 12
    6534 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Ha…well with the day I’m having today if someone asked that request of me I’d tell them they can sit where I place them or not come at all. If I was in my right mind I’d probably figure a way to not sit them together. That being said, I haven’t started my seating chart so my opinion might very well change! 

    Post # 13
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would switch their seats I wouldn’t want him to not enjoy his dinner. With Ten aunts and unlces plus cousins in mix you have plenty of options.

    Post # 14
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If it’s too much of a hassle to not seat them together then don’t. They’re brothers (and adults) they can suck it up.  

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