Post # 1
Our wedding is this summer and we are currently selecting the alcohol options. FI and I thought it would be sweet to put one fruit and one dry wine on the tables from our favourite winery, which we have visited every year. I was speaking with my mother last month and mentioned our idea. She didn’t like it. She said in this day and age people expect to have red and white wine regardless of the food options and they would not like our choice and be unhappy. To clarify, we’re having an open bar during cocktail hour and after dinner, where both red and white wine will be readily available.
I know that if we stick to our plan, there will be an inevitable fight down the line. Mom isn’t contributing anything financially, but has been very fussy about the food & beverage options at our venue.
Should we stick to our gund given how we love this winery and want to add a touch of ourselves to our own wedding, knowing that a fight is coming? Or should we drop it in the name of family peace and stick with the conventional?
Post # 3
Stick to your guns.
What normal person is going to get upset if they can’t have every single alcohol option available to them at every second during the reception????
Post # 4
stick to your guns,and don’t talk about the wine choices with her
Post # 5
As much as I think you can do what you want, who drinks fruit wines with dinner? If you are going to make wine available after dinner, why not serve the fruit wine with the coffee?
Post # 7
@julies1949: If it was on the table, I would.
Post # 8
@julies1949: Fiance and I only ever drink fruit wine – we don’t like white or red and never even realized that was odd until we started wedding planning.
Post # 9
Op While I agree stick to your guns but fruit wines are more suited to desserts not a meal…
Post # 10
I think your idea is really cute! You could even put a little note on each table saying ‘enjoy wines from the bride and groom’s favorite winery!’ I would stick to your guns. It’s your wedding! If people must have white or red with dinner, they can get their drink at cocktail hour and hold on to it lol
Post # 11
@anonybee0810: It’s not odd. Unless someone is super into wine and all the “proper” wine rules….I don’t think anyone would notice.
Post # 12
Yes. Stick to your guns. It’s YOUR wedding.
Post # 13
There are things to stick to your guns about but I agree with mom. In one of your posts you said, “we don’t like white or red and never even realized that was odd until we started wedding planning”. Well that tells me you have heard from a reasonable number of people that it is odd.
I’m thinking of this from a money aspect rather than what you and Fiance enjoy. (It really doesn’t matter what YOU guys enjoy, it is what your guests will drink) I enjoy wine and never drink fruity wines with a meal. I have a decent amount of wine drinking friends and we just don’t do that. Dollar for dollar you are farther ahead to put a white and a red on the tables.
I really think if you stick to your current plan you are going to have more fruity wine leftover than you think and people at the table won’t drink what is there – they will go to the bar.
Post # 14
I think that’s fine. Assuming whichever dry wine you choose goes with all of your dinner options, I’d say go for it! You’ve got the fruit option for people who are feeling adventurous, which is always nice – I’m a fan of fruit wines, so I’d probably have a little glass either before dinner got served or right afterwards.
Post # 15
I like the sentiment behind it, however without a note explaining why you chose those wines I’m not sure how well it would go over with your guests. What about seeing if your favorite winery has a red you can serve?
Post # 16
Red and white are available at the bar, so you can put whatever you like the tables. Stick to your guns!