- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Bridesmaid craziness! I need advice Bee’s! Here’s the situation. Before I got engaged I never saw myself as having a Maid/Matron of Honor, just BM’s . Shortly before my engagement my sister N (same dad different moms) sent me a text saying “I better be your MOH!”. Fast-forward to the night I became engaged, I get a text from N saying the exact same thing as before so I text back and say “ Ok do you want to be my MOH?”. To be honest at that point I was so overwhelmed with being engaged, Future Mother-In-Law hounding me on the phone that I needed to pick my BM’s that night I felt kind of pressured, like I had to decided right then to have a Maid/Matron of Honor to help me with the madness.
(Side note. N has caused me some stress lately as getting the exact same tattoo (full back piece!), wanting to fight with me over my choice in Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses among other stupid stuff)
N and I were never close but we are sisters she has had my back when it has come down to drag out fist fights ( I wish I could say I was lying!) but I don’t know if I want her as my Maid/Matron of Honor now. I’m much closer to my older sister T (same mom different dad) and even though we spent 3 years not talking shes still my best friend. I keep thinking who will give their speech at the wedding and I would rather have T do it because well, she knows me better and we have the same mom (another long story).
So WTF do I do? Do I just keep N as my MOH? Do I tell N I decided to not do labels on the BM’s that it was causing outside drama? Thanks for letting me vent!