Post # 1
“For a woman to make me want to get married, she has to be PRETTY EFFING AMAZING!! So Career minded right now! I’m just different I guess!”
This was posted my someone I used to date. Without knowing any specific context or backstory…what, if anything, does the status mean to you? Why?
Post # 3
He’s not ready for marriage right now and prefers to focus on career – but is open to the idea that someone might come along to make him reconsider.
Post # 4
I would say he’s way overcompensating for being single and pretending its because hes so focused on his career, rather than the fact he probably can’t find anyone to date him.
Post # 5
ya its pretty straight forward.
Post # 6
With all the stories in the media about “having it all” I would suppose this person assumes they can’t have it all- and have to pick either career or relationship.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I would interpret it as an annoying person who thinks they are super special and different when really they’re just like every other damn person XD It just really irks me when people try to be special snowflakes.
From a literal standpoint I think jocember has it about right though :3
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Overjoyed: Sounds like a douche….
Post # 10
It means that until he meets someone pretty amazing, he’s not going to get married. Rather than settle for less than amazing, he prefers to focus on his career.
I think everyone does this, so I am not sure why it was status update worthy information.
Post # 11
This is exactly what I was thinking.
Post # 12
@iammcdibble: I would say he’s way overcompensating for being single and pretending its because hes so focused on his career, rather than the fact he probably can’t find anyone to date him.
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I thought this^ at first actually too haha.
Post # 15
ok, there’s a chance I’m reading too much into this. Because I do it all the time, lol. But…
It seems to me that he’s trying to insinuate that any woman he chooses not to marry (or more correctly, one who is not able to divert his attention from his career) is not “EFFING AMAZING.” I am obviously included in that number, so I felt the teensiest urge to take it personally. First of all, it’s not a woman’s job to make a man want to marry her. It should be mutual with them each putting forth a substantial amount of effort*. I’ve been encountering more and more women lately who equate their self-worth with the extent to which they’re able to “catch” a man or make one propose to her. This has made me a little sensitive to the idea that the extent to which a man is willing to marry/commit to you is primarily a function of your awesomeness. Because it isn’t. You can be awesome and he can still not want you. IMO, a man’s willingness to marry/commit is primarily a function of where HE’S at in life, what he wants, what he’s ready for, etc. Therefore, if a man doesn’t want to marry a woman, he should own that. Not insinuate that were she more awesome, she could perhaps have convinced him to do something that he’s already admitted he’s not ready to do.
*he confided to me awhile ago that he doesn’t see the need to “court” women anymore because they’re so thirsty and aggressive nowadays. He just sits back and lets them prove that they’re worth his attention. If they fail to be sufficiently “EFFING AMAZING,” then they fall by the wayside