Post # 1
You run into a mild acquaintance you haven’t seen in a few years. While eyeing the mild belly weight you have gained since marriage, asks if you are pregnant. And you’re totally not.
This happened to me today. Hubby was with me and didn’t know what to say other than he was sorry. No words of encouragement, nothing. I’m surprised the dude (that said it, not hubby) actually had the balls to ask someone this without knowing. He’s a d-bag anyway, but still.
Sorry for the vent. I’m just embarrassed, hurt, and angry.
Post # 3
@shellyjean: People are just dumb sometimes! Hugs to you!
Post # 4
Oh god, laugh it off. You said yourself, the guy’s a douche. (Though, you could’ve given your husband a couple days of nerves for his lack of supportive response. 😀 )
Post # 5
I’m sorry that happened. Certainly not a confidence boost!
That’s why I never assume. I actually noticed a bump on my co-worker/friend like a month ago but never said anything. They had a rough run at it (multiple misscarriages) so this time around they decided to wait until 25 weeks before telling anyone besides family. She told me last week and I told her that I totally knew but didn’t want to say anything for fear that she wasn’t.
It’s always best to keep one’s mouth shut unless it’s painfully obvious and even then, if the woman wanted you to know, I’m sure she’d probably bring it up.
Post # 6
Always turn a rude question back onto the rude asker. If ever confronted with this again say, “Why would you ask such a question?”. This takes the focus off you and back on the person that completely lacks any manners whatsoever and is also an idiot. I am sorry that you have had to deal with this, some people just shouldn’t speak.
Post # 7
That is insensitive and goes with the “think before you speak” that many people lack. I’m so sorry that happened.
Post # 8
I hate people who assume someone is pregnant whenever they see them. One of my coworkers wives was at the office a month or so ago with a pretty pronounced bump and I was still nervous to ask if she was pregnant.
Post # 9
This is why I never, ever ask unless I’ve been told or they’re practically having contractions in front of me.
Did you ask him if he’s gained any tact in the last several months?
Post # 10
at first i was mortified, but then you said it was a guy. guys are dumbasses about stuff like that. he might have really thought you were (no offense) and didn’t mean to hurt your feelings, i mean unless you know him to be that kind of guy. personally, i would never ask that question to anyone unless they looked like they were ready to burst any minute.
don’t be too hard on yourself. so what, you put on some weight after high school. go on a diet if you really feel that badly about it and can’t let it go. but try not to obsess over it, no one is perfect including that douchebag.
Post # 11
ugghhh some people are just dumb and dont know to keep their mouths shut – im sorry he made you feel crappy
Post # 12
that sux, sorry that happened to you. i also never ask unless they say something about it – but then i dont need to ask!
Post # 13
Guys are totally clueless on so many levels. Plus most people assume once your married your going to have kids.
UGG so sorry that happened to you. You will have to start a new rule with hubby that if someone says something stupid he has to kick their ass.
Post # 14
If I had a nickel for every time….well, nevermind. 😉
I’ll bet you look AWESOME!
Post # 15
I always liked the saying, “take it from the source”. Unfortunately I have had that comment from a stranger while I was shopping and wearing a flowy sundress. I am busty so I look overall bigger than I am especially with sundresses. Some lady asked if I was pregnant, funny part is she weighed about 100 lbs. more than me… whatever!
Post # 16
Cut the guy some slack, seriously. More than likely he just had a momental lapse in judgment while trying to make small talk, and he was probably mortified once he had said it!
I know from experience..