(Closed) How would you react if….?

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Post # 47
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Fiance can donate sperm til he has none left…haha. 

I would definitely consider being a surrogate, but  I have too many ‘only ifs’ to think it would ever happen. Plus, Fiance wouldn’t be happy if I did it before we had another kid…which I’m on the fence about anyway. And the thought of what 3 pregnancies will do to my body is terrifying….my first one wrecked me…haha.

Post # 48
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1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d donate eggs to any of my siblings that’s it. I could never be a surrogate I know me, I’m too emotional for that. Hell no to fi giving his sperm to anybody. Not happening. 

Post # 49
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2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would surrogate but I’m not comfortable giving out my eggs. (In my head, that sounded so weird to type)

Post # 50
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13025 posts
Honey Beekeeper

No, would never agree to donate or to have H donate.

Post # 51
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62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have donated my eggs a couple times to completely annonymous people and it turned out great and I had an agreement with my sister, if either of us couldn’t conceive we would be a surrogate. Thank god she got pregnant after a few bouts of IVF cause I think that would be really weird to carry my sisters baby before I had my own children. Everything worked out (sigh). I have never had a friend ask me so it all depends on how close you are with them.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Nona99:  I would feel honored to help a close friend start the family of their dreams.  I think I would like to help my friends first explore the option of adoption because there are SO MANY great kids out there without families… but I would certainly consider surrogating or donating eggs.  I would also be 100% supportive if my husband decided that he would like to consider dontating his sperm to close friends or family.  Just curious, to those bees who said they would donate eggs but would definitely not want their significant other to donate sperm?  Perhaps I’m being naive, but how come?

 

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

I’d say no to my friend and my SO would also say no. We’re both very concious about overpopulation and have chosen not to bring any more bodies into the population. I’d help my friends out with adoption though- definitely… if I had the money at the time.

Post # 54
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’ve had someone ask for my eggs because they wanted a blond blue eyed baby (these genes must be really strong, every woman in our family on that side looks exactly the same). Nope. Also, no to being a surrogate. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I had a really easy time concieving and an easy pregnancy and delivery, but I’m not sure we want any more kids.  A part of me feels like I’m wasting some great baby-making parts, and I have considered acting as a surrogate.  I’m not sure, though, that I could go through it all and hand over the baby at the end.  That’s the main thing that gives me pause.  If a close friend or family member asked, so that I would be able to remain involved in the child’s life, I would probably say yes.

As for my man as a sperm donor, I guess we’d have to discuss it.  If the person asking was anyone I felt might have romantic designs on him/see this as a way to get entangled in his life forever, I would not be down.  For a family member, I would feel differently.

I did have an ex who provided several semen samples to a lesbian couple after I asked him not to.  He’s an ex for many other reasons, but that action was a symptom of our greater problems.  The sperm didn’t take, so it never became a larger issue, which is probably good since the couple split up about a year later.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know if I could surrogate… But donate my eggs? Absolutely. And if someone who needed sperm wanted DH’s- absolutely. 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have some chronic health issues so I doubt I’d make a good surrogate. I have lupus and endometriosis, and lupus can get worse with hormones sometimes, so this might be a health risk. Also, due to the endo, I’m not sure if I can even conceive and/or carry a baby to term. I know right now, based on my health if I were to get pregnant, my last trimester (minimum) is on bed rest. I take medication now so that I don’t get a period. They’re not sure how great my right ovary is. During the last surgery, it was twisted and essentially glued to something else. I would, however, offer to be a reference for my friends if they wanted to adopt and do what I could to help them.

I don’t think I have the final say about my partner’s sperm, but have SOME say. I wouldn’t be fully comfortable with that, but I would be open to it as a possibility. I do know that my partner would not be okay with that, so that works out for me. I know that we are considering adopting so that I don’t have to go through pregnancy.

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