(Closed) How Would You React in This Situation….? (LONG RANT)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should FI and I attend the wedding?

    Attend ceremony, but not the reception

    Attend both

    Decline invitation

    Other-Comment Below

  • Post # 18
    679 posts
    Busy bee

    Don’t get involved bc it could blow up or blow over and you and your Fiance could be left looking bad. If you RSVP’d for the shower already, I would still go just so that it doesn’t cause more drama. It’s only a few days out, right? It would look like you are fueling the fire if you suddenly have something come up and have to skip it. If this was in any way directed towards you, I’d say skip it all, but it’s not. As others have stated, the bride’s nerves may be running high since her wedding is getting close. There may be more the the story, too. I’d stay as neutral as possible just to avoid additional feuding.

    Post # 19
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Continue with your plans to go to the wedding (both ceremony and reception). 

    If I were you I wouldn’t go to the shower, as that will upset your friend who organised the Alice one.

    Post # 20
    7643 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think you guys just need to go to both. Be a good friend to both because you shouldn’t be taking sides, although if this information is true the bride was extremely rude. But it isn’t your place to get involved. I’d go.


    Post # 21
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    This isn’t your battle.  

    You are not “siding” with the bride (who I agree is being very childish and unreasonable… I have very overbearing and judgmental parents as well and I’m sorry if you haven’t dealt with the issues it takes to tell them NO you probably aren’t ready to be a wife, but I don’t know her situation and I digress) by attending her wedding as you are friends with the couple and it is important to support them for this huge event.  If it upsets a mutual friend that you attended a wedding of someone you care about because that person offended her your friend is in the wrong.

    The shower debacle sounds like ridiculous drama. I would wash my hands of it and would not attend the shower.

    Post # 22
    2902 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Make a small standby not going to the shower but attend the wedding. 


    I think that sends a sign about the bad behavior without severing all ties. 


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