Post # 1
Its my Fiance Stag/Bachelor party this weekend. They are going away to a lake for a weekend of drinking etc.
I have recived a text from a number I dont recognise asking;
Quote ‘hypothetically’ if we where to by Fiance a ‘friend’ for the night, how far is too far?
What do I even say to this? I trust my Fiance, I think he knows how far is to far. But I don’t have a good feeling about this – maybe I should be happy they are consulting me??
How would you react?
Post # 3
Thank them for consulting you first (often friends can be jerks and not think about it and then the damage is done). Then state what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with. Clearly.
If your Fiance goes further than what you were comfortable with he would have no excuses because he and his friends knew exactly how you felt and he would be knowingly breaking your trust..
Personally, I would tell them that I am not comfortable with the concept of a friend for the night and that my Fiance knows it.
Post # 4
I think you should tell them that if they are asking, then they clearly know that you would be uncomfortable with the situation so they should draw their own conclusions. Then I would sit down with your Fiance and talk to him about the weekend and what your boundaries and expectations are for this weekend because of this text. I’m glad you trust him but it sounds like he deserves some fair warning of what his friends are up to!!!
Post # 5
my hubby had “friends” at his B party and he didnt even see the show – he was at the back drinking a few beers and talking to the guys that didnt want to be up front and centre for the show which inc a live all girl sex show
how would i react if i was asked about this before he went – i wouldnt have an issue with strippers, i wouldnt have an issue with a lap dance but i would have an issue if he touched/kissed the girls
my advise is talk to your Fiance so the both of you are on the same page and then let his pals know what is appropriate
Post # 6
It would concern me more that this person cannot even spell. I would not let this person make any decisions on how far is too far. Put it to him bluntly so he can understand.
Post # 7
I’d tell your Fi about the text and ask him what sort of friend was this texter talking about and ask if it’s a joke, because if it wasn’t…*warning eyes*
Post # 8
Thanks Ladies, love the *warning eyes* MissBabeski!
I had a chat to Fiance and we are on the same page, I just feel sorry for him as he isn’t looking forward to it at all.
Post # 9
I love that they asked you. Like the PP’s have said, thank them for that and clearly state your boundaries 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t really understand the whole “friend” thing? Is this in referrence to a stripper? Or an escort? Either way the strippers that get hired are generally escorts anyways. I would be pretty skeptical of the whole issue. Then again I’m more on the conservative side, so it depends on your comfort level.