(Closed) How would you react?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Thank them for consulting you first (often friends can be jerks and not think about it and then the damage is done). Then state what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with. Clearly.

If your Fiance goes further than what you were comfortable with he would have no excuses because he and his friends knew exactly how you felt and he would be knowingly breaking your trust..

Personally, I would tell them that I am not comfortable with the concept of a friend for the night and that my Fiance knows it.

Post # 4
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should tell them that if they are asking, then they clearly know that you would be uncomfortable with the situation so they should draw their own conclusions. Then I would sit down with your Fiance and talk to him about the weekend and what your boundaries and expectations are for this weekend because of this text. I’m glad you trust him but it sounds like he deserves some fair warning of what his friends are up to!!!

Post # 5
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my hubby had “friends” at his B party and he didnt even see the show – he was at the back drinking a few beers and talking to the guys that didnt want to be up front and centre for the show which inc a live all girl sex show

how would i react if i was asked about this before he went – i wouldnt have an issue with strippers, i wouldnt have an issue with a lap dance but i would have an issue if he touched/kissed the girls

my advise is talk to your Fiance so the both of you are on the same page and then let his pals know what is appropriate


Post # 6
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It would concern me more that this person cannot even spell.  I would not let this person make any decisions on how far is too far.  Put it to him bluntly so he can understand.

Post # 7
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d tell your Fi about the text and ask him what sort of friend was this texter talking about and ask if it’s a joke, because if it wasn’t…*warning eyes*

Post # 9
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I love that they asked you. Like the PP’s have said, thank them for that and clearly state your boundaries 🙂

Post # 10
2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t really understand the whole “friend” thing? Is this in referrence to a stripper? Or an escort? Either way the strippers that get hired are generally escorts anyways. I would be pretty skeptical of the whole issue. Then again I’m more on the conservative side, so it depends on your comfort level.

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