Post # 1
I just got my wedding album in the mail today! I can’t wait to see the finished product (I’m waiting to get home so I can open it with DH).
Anyway – there’s a picture from the reception that has one of my BFF’s ex-bf’s in the background. I thought about cropping him out of that particular picture, but didn’t end up doing so (they got back together and I thought it would last and I wasn’t bothered by the fact that he’s in the picture).
BUT – I have NO DOUBT that it will bother her when she looks at the album AND she’ll make a comment about (like – I can’t believe he’s in your wedding album forever!!). He sat on the aisle and is in a lot of the ceremony pictures too. I actually thought about not including that picture, but I loved it too much.
So – what do I say?
I guess I’m kind of irked that she made such a big deal about bringing him and now will probably make a big deal about him being in the photos. I guess I could just ignore her and change the subject….
Post # 3
Hey, that’s what she gets for bringing him! You may want to pretend you never dated him but… the wedding album… won’t let you forget. LOL.
Post # 4
it ain’t her album… why does she care?
Post # 5
Wow… that one would be really hard for me.
I guess that’s why I never brought short-term bf’s to things… lol
Actually now that I think about it… I’d probably smile and turn the page or put my hand out for the book back. lol
Or say something like “that’s okay I don’t mind… he was there and I’m glad he got to enjoy the day with me and Darling Husband.”
hope it goes okay………. maybe don’t show her?……
Post # 6
@vmec: it’s just her way. She’ll make some comment like: I can’t BELIEVE he’s in here and i have to see his face.
I guess I don’t want to snark at her – because it was HER decision, after all. But, maybe a little snarking is appropriate, in this case!
Post # 7
If she says something like that, dish it right back. “I know, I can’t believe I’m stuck with your random date in my wedding album forever.:
Post # 8
@runsyellowlites: About 12 years ago, I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friend’s wedding and took my long-time Boyfriend or Best Friend with me as a date. When I see the album, I think (oh geez, this relationship has been captured for all time sake) – especially the shot where he caught the garter. Sigh – live and learn.
Post # 9
Just like it’s your wedding, it’s your album! You should get to pick whatever photos that you like and no have to worry about pleasing her. It’s not your fault that she brought him to the wedding and that they broke up afterwards.
Post # 10
It was your moment in time and that’s how things were then. She’ll get over it.
Post # 11
@MissComicBook: I completely agree with you and that’s why I decided to keep that photo in. I just know she’ll make comments about it and wanted to arm myself with something!
Post # 13
@ohheavenlyday & @assilem: LOL – I’m totally leaning towards feeling like a bit of snark is 110% fine! 🙂
Post # 14
Yeah, that’s a situation called “not my problem.” She’s a big girl, she can deal with it.