Post # 227
Oh, it is a real email. Haven’t seen the bride in a decade so this must be a mass mailing to everyone she’s ever known. We don’t currently speak. Don’t want to ask her to drop me from the emailings yet because this is too unbelievable to not follow for awhile even though I think it is beyond tacky and classless.
Post # 228
And when I am done watching this unfold, I’m thinking about sending an envelope full of Monopoly money. We paid for our wedding on our own and only invited a couple dozen people because that is what we could afford and it was a gorgeous wedding. I wish she had a donation site set up so I could see how much money she has raised.
Post # 229
I like the idea of Monopoly Money… that and one of the Etiquette Books I mentioned in my earlier post (and one on Money Management for a Family)
Heck, you don’t even have to say who they are from… just send them anonomously with a note
I wanted to comply with your Request … and came to realize that indeed you’ll need these a lot more than I ever will. Hopefully, you can see that Money isn’t “funny” when it is something spent unwisely in life, or when one has an expectaton that others will fork it over to you without a care.
Life espcially Married Life is about making choices… and sometimes those choices are difficult.
I send you Best Wishes for your Wedding and into the future…
Post # 230
I really really hope someone hits reply all and proceeds to rip her a new asshole.
Post # 231
This is so crazy that I can’t believe this is real. WTH?!!!! With my personality I would ask him if they are serious and if they really think people are going to do this….but the best thing to do is not to respond. Wow. Just wow.
Post # 232
Uh, what? Has no one said anything to this chick about these absurd emails yet?
I am so going to test this out and steal this approach to help pay for the hefty balance we still owe to our venue.. Pretty sure I’ll wind up on the first 48 shortly afterwards sending my family and friends some GARBAGE like this. The GALL.
Post # 233
I am so glad OP dropped back in to validate that this is real!!! I wish I could follow this in real life!!
Post # 235
Haha she got a pay pal in the second email?!? Like THAT was the reason why people didn’t contribute…
That makes me laugh so much!
Post # 236
@risingsun: Because no one’s arguing, haha. Lolcat pics usually seem to be used to calm people down when they get into disagreements.
Pretty sure everyone in this thread agrees that this bride is cray!
Post # 237
I have a bit of a different take. I started reading the first email and thought… well… in a way… kudos to her for having the balls. I always give cash as a gift at weddings, unless they are very close family members and you can pick something very personal for them. Indeed, at all of the weddings I’ve been to then cash is the norm as a gift for young people (although not for older, established couples). Plus, I don’t think it’s rude to ask for cash, although there are polite and impolite ways to do it. Probably a cultural thing.
Then I got a bit further on… and I noticed a few things. All very well saying “please donate 15-20$” but she’s missing these four critical words: “instead of a gift”. What- are they expecting a gift as well? Then there’s that last paragraph… so you want them to help you out, but then you won’t invite them? WTF? That’s when I started feeling like the rest of you bees on here.
Then that second email is the crazy kicker. Why is she telling her guests any of this? If you can’t afford it then RENT A HALL. In addition, what do you mean you looked into only serving your guests starters? You have to FEED your guests! This bride clearly couldn’t care less about her guests. No proper food for them, and probably not even alcohol for toasts. Someone who thinks like this will certainly not be considerate enough to do things like recommend places to stay for her guests, or pay for their parking. Don’t reply to the email and just don’t go!
For comparison, I have quite a low budget for my wedding. I will probably spend at least 75% of that budget on food and drink for my guests. How it should be…
Post # 238
OMG! I can’t believe she could possibly think that, that is ok! Wow!!
Post # 239
I’m in shock that someone could be so tacky. As many others have stated don’t have a wedding if you can’t afford it. I laughed out loud when she discusses no “strings” being attached. Basically, even if you donate money you’re not guaranteed an invite.
This is not a person I would want to be friends with or attend a wedding for. Do what you can to get yourself off this email chain. I think it’s going to get even more tacky as the wedding draws closer.
Post # 241
Pretty sure that aside from PP’s saying that OP is lying, this is one of the most unanimous threads I’ve ever seen.