(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 242
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9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – the_future_mrs:  No one said the OP was lying (think calling someone a liar is a bit harsh)

Only that the story was too hard to believe … made up.

The OP has since come back and posted an UPDATE… and assured us that it is the real-thing.

 

Post # 243
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Shortbread:  haha, maybe it is just me but I love watching drama unfold, I would stay on the list, don’t respond yet and just sit back and have a good old giggle at seeing what she writes next and maybe see if you get any respond all messages back.

She def has some nerve, having a garden weeding means, you could get somewhere free, find a big old tree in a park, hire tables and chairs, hang lanterns and fairy lights, make your own decorations, make it magical with out the $$. Have a 2 year engagement, 1 year goes waaaayy to quick anyway!!
Really, she clearly has no clue. We are all going through this, some of us on a very tight budget and I would never dare to ask for money and I would not then proceed to stinge out (not sure if you know that word – means: being cheap) on the food and invite 300 guests. You brothers girlfriends cousin doesn’t need to be invited. 

I would be interested to see more emails and know her age. 

Post # 244
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is awful. I can’t believe someone would do that!

The worst part is that she could have at least made this more acceptable had she mentioned that these contributions would be welcome ‘in lieu of a gift’

 

Maybe email her and say ‘I would be happy to contribute to your wedding, but I consider this your wedding registry’

Post # 245
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

oops

Post # 246
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9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – Katiopeia:  Your suggestion doesn’t make it any less offensive…

It is the asking for money part at all that is the problem… it is ok for Guest to CHOOSE to give you money as a gift (or no gift at all for that matter).  BUT IT IS NEVER OK… for a Bride & Groom to outright ASK FOR MONEY (or gifts for that matter)

Period.

Post # 247
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hell if I were the OP you couldn’t lure me off this woman’s email list with a box of magical calorie-free Krispy Kremes. Something tells me she won’t keep her disappointment over the inevitable failure of her fundraising scheme to herself….next email shoud be epic.

Post # 248
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1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Eglantine:  If someone offers you the calorie-free Krispy Kremes, feel free to send those in my direction.  😉

Post # 249
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2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Only read through the first page so far…but wow…just…wow.  I agree with a PP that someone should nicely e-mail this woman and tell her how rude she’s being.  I am sure you wouldn’t be offended if she took offense and cut you from her guest list….

Post # 250
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@This Time Round:  I said it would make it LESS offensive, not that it would make it okay. I just meant if she was going to do this (which is obviously ridiculous), she could at least make it less so. Almost everything she said in the emails other than the straight up asking for money made it progressively worse.

Post # 251
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2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Only read through the first page so far…but wow…just…wow.  I agree with a PP that someone should nicely e-mail this woman and tell her how rude she’s being.  I am sure you wouldn’t be offended if she took offense and cut you from her guest list….

Post # 252
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wonder if her next email will be concerning her gift registry?!?! No Target for her, she wants that high end stuff!!But only if you pay for it…

(no offense to anyone who registered at Target, as I am a BB&B and Kohls gal)

 

Post # 253
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@This Time Round:  Haha, pretty sure you’re taking this a bit too seriously. I was paraphrasing, and I said it in a very light hearted way. Geez. I also must have missed the part where I said that I didn’t believe her. 

Post # 254
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t know about you guys but I am jonesing for another email. I can’t wait to see more of this train wreck.

Post # 255
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@pippyskiddles:  ….. she shouldn’t be having a wedding then. Whatever happened to having a simple cake and finger food wedding/reception at a church?! 

I would tell her to just elope and end the hassel for everyone. 

What a ****. 

*ANGRILY STOMPS AWAY* 

Post # 256
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Uhhhh AWWWKWARD!  Wow, just wow.  I actually laughed out loud while reading this.  I’d probably email her back and tell her that crack kills and she should set down the pipe and slowly back away…and then remove me from the list. 

 

Yeah, could you pay for my wedding aaannnd my food, but don’t be upset if you pay for it and aren’t invited!?  REALLY?  Seriously, the girl is high.

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