(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 272
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Oh my goodness! That is insane!

Post # 274
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@j_jaye:  That was really cool of her friends to make her dream come true! And the request was coming from a friend, not the bride herself. Yeah, definitely a different situation than “just got back from Hawaii, everyone please give me money for a wedding you may or may not be invited to, kthanks!”

Post # 275
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

This thread is seriously awesome.

Post # 276
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@pippyskiddles:  If I were paying for mine on our lonesome (Thanks mom and dad for all the generosity) I would never send something like this, I would o what we could afford. I probably wouldn’t do a large reception, maybe something back at the house for family. I wouldn’t respond and I wouldn’t go to the wedding. I also wouldn’t send a gift. This is way out of line

Post # 277
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I only got to read the first page… but doesn’t the bride realize that if 300 people come, she will most likely get more that $20 pp in wedding gifts/money?? She could avoid offending her 300 guests and she’d probably be rolling in the dough later on. This is both rude and short sighted!!

Also, it being a “potluck dinner” … does this mean I would have to bring my own dish too? Or, you know, pick up some Burger King along the way?

I just dont understand…

(Sorry if these things have been brought up in previous pages… I just had to jump in now! Lol)

Post # 278
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Why does everyone assume this chick is young?  I’m young and would never think to do this, not to get all offended but really everytime someone starts acting selfish and self-centered they are assumed to be young, just because a person has “grown up” doesn’t mean they are any less self-centered.  This could be a 40 year old women for all we know!

Post # 279
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@alyssaC:  Totally could. Only a handful of posters mentioned she sounds young, hardly very many.

To me she sounds entitled.

Post # 280
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@alyssaC:   I think they might be trying to give her the benifit of the doubt. Young=doesnt know any better?

Post # 281
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

OP: Is this a joke? Is she really serious?! I would tell her to shove her wedding up her *** and that $200 that I was going to give as a gift at the wedding is going to go to my wedding fund instead!

Post # 282
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Bumble bee

Holy crap I can’t believe that is for real! I would annonymously send her this entire thread.

Post # 283
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think this kind of solicitation is becoming more popular for events and projects other than weddings. My facebook feed has fairly frequent requests for donations on kickstarter to fund people’s plays and movie projects that they’ve been cast in, etc. I blocked a former aquaintance from my feed because he was out of control, posting escalating demands daily the way charities increase the intensity of their pleas when facing urgent need like the foodbank running out of food or natural disaster leaving people homeless.

I’m really embarassed for this girl that she thinks her 300 person wedding should require charity from others. There’s no point being embarassed for this type of person though, they’ll never understand that the universe does not exist to please them.

Post # 284
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Holymotherofgod.

 

 

*Bookmarked*

*Reaches for popcorn*

Post # 285
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

everyone says they wouldnt respond, well I would! lol send her a brochure on eloping I’m happy you shared this, it’s really quite unbelievable. the other bees are probably right about not responding, but if you were to here is what I would say.

 

“Dear…..,

I understand that you are haveing a hard time with the finacials of a wedding, but I think you should take it as a sign to wait. If you don’t have the money now, perhaps having a longer engagement where you can save money would be best. I would also like to be completely honest with you and let you know that the emails requesting a donation are in poor taste and I wouldn’t send anything like that again.

I hope you understand where I am coming from.

pippyskiddles

 

please tell us whe you end up doing and or saying i would love to know

Post # 286
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

mrs.stormylove “Holy crap I can’t believe that is for real! I would annonymously send her this entire thread.”

do this, actually!

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