(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 317
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So glad the OP came back!  If the person who sent these emails was smart, she sent it bcc so reply-to-all is not possible.  If only there was a way we could get ourselves on this email list!  Obviously a lot of us are having too much fun reading about this train wreck 🙂

Post # 318
2303 posts
Buzzing bee

I would tell her that she can have a wedding later when she can afford it. If she just HAS TO GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW then she can do it without everyone there. This is just another example of people not having very good priorities. Not to mention that she seems like she doesn’t budget well at all and doesn’t have enough for the wedding because she spends all her money on wants.

Post # 319
22 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Send her a link the thebrokeassbride.com


Post # 320
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Rachel631:  This is EXACTLY what I would say too! The OP should copy and paste this as a reply!

Post # 321
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@pippyskiddles:  everyone pitch in to get a financial advisor. if you cannot afford a wedding, just wait and save until you can. 

Post # 322
2357 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

let me just say that I love how snarky this thread is– finally seeing some sense on WB!

Post # 323
1637 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d UPS them an envelope with my loose change and a note saying “beggars can’t be choosers”.

Post # 324
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Don’t respond, go to the wedding, eat the dinner, drink the open bar and don’t give a gift.

Post # 325
9990 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not answer the email, decline any shower invitation, decline the wedding invitation, and not send a gift to the wedding.  That’s horrible.

Post # 326
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I wasn’t going to read all of that just because it seemed way too long, but once I got into it, I couldn’t stop! It’s like a terrible movie you have to know the ending of, or a bloody car wreck you can’t look away from hahaha… AWFUL! I can’t believe she thought this was even moderately appropriate, much less than she emailed you TWICE to beg for money! The cost of a marriage certificate at city hall is about $35. If you don’t have the money for a wedding with between 300-600 people, DON’T HAVE IT! WHO HAS 600 CLOSE FRIENDS? OR EVEN 300? lol. I can’t even. Also, the part about “no strings attached” is PRICELESS! Send us money, and we still might not invite you.

Post # 327
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

+3123 (whatever the number is :)) to Kariface.

This girl fell of the deep end. Mariana trench style. 

Post # 328
2536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Brideonabudgetlauren:   If it were me (I’m one to just say what’s on my mind), I would just respond saying “If you can’t afford the wedding you want DON’T GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW”.

+1  I’d say this and I’d add “Maybe it would be cheaper to elope.”  

Seriously, this bitch is either has one huge pair of balls or she’s effing crazy.  I would not be attending this wedding.

Post # 329
10 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013


Lol. Thank you OP for providing this entertainment. Also, is this chick for real? I just…I can’t even.

Post # 330
7439 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO – Rachel631:  Re – Your Reply # 312

I agree with the majority of what you have written…

BUT for Paragraph 2 (Point # 1).  It is NEVER proper etiquette to ask for money… although Cash Registries are becoming more popular some places in the world, they are still considered VERY RUDE here in North America (and I assume that the Bride in Question is from the USA)

Other than that… sage advice.  But I’m guessing that the Bride wouldn’t read it or care.  She does seem to have her “mind set” on her BOTTOM LINE objective… as other Bees have said, we are expecting additional emails to follow (seems to be her style when she doesn’t get the replies she expected)


Post # 331
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)

Why the hell was she in Hawaii if they are broke? If you’re that excited about getting married go to city hall and then have a BBQ. Easy.

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