(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 392
Member
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@pippyskiddles:  OMGWTFBBQ?!?!

 

This girl CLEARLY does not understand what the purpose of a wedding is.  If she can’t afford to host a WEDDING, she can still get married.  But asking friends and family to “chip in” towards the cost of a party that they are supposed to be hosting is downright stupid.

I have no words.  How close are you to this person?  I’d either suggest she postpones a reception until she can afford it, or just has a very tiny party with closest people only, which I guess she can afford.

 

This is CRAZY.

Post # 393
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve already read this post but I didn’t want to comment because I have nothing new to say. However, I was having a horrible day and I needed something to cheer me up so I went back and reread this stupid woman’s emails. Needless to say I feel much better. Thanks for posting this!

Post # 394
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36 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Ummm….clearly you can’t afford a weddding……SO DON’T HAVE ONE….You have no right to mooch off of you’re family and friends. errr…this is insane. 

Post # 395
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Don’t respond.  I’ll assume she’s young and obviously doesn’t know any better.  The principle is to live within your means.  If you want to get married and don’t have the means wait or hit city hall.

Post # 396
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1853 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh lord. This is too much. I hope she sends you another!! These are fun to read!

Post # 397
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4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Tacky, rude and a slap in the face, especially after this: “We do ask though that if you do donate, there be no strings attached.  What I mean by this is that I don’t want you to feel cheated if we have to cut back on our guest list because we just can’t find a venue big enough to hold everyone we want to share our special day with. “

 

So basically, you need to donate $ to their wedding, but don’t be upset if you don’t end up being invited. What a bitchy move.

 

They need to learn to be responsible with their money and not rack up debt. If they can’t afford a huge wedding, then they shouldn’t have one (or wait until they can afford it). And yes, you can have a lovely dream wedding without being extravagant!

 

And yes, I would respond so she knows how rude this is!

Post # 398
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4369 posts
Honey bee

I think OP should set up a new, anonymous email account to email this thread to her, and then report back.

Post # 399
Member
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@pippyskiddles: So tacky and rude. I’m baffled by this CRAP. i would actually respond to tell her this is inappropriate and she could remove me from the guest list. ugh.

Post # 400
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1360 posts
Bumble bee

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@SoupyCat:  I agree.

 

Give us money, but don’t be offended if you don’t get an invite.

You’ve gotta be kidding. There is no way in heck that is serious. (Okay I know it’s real but my mind is blown).

I’d save her the 19.95 and RSVP ‘no way’.

Post # 401
Member
561 posts
Busy bee

lol this is crazy. i cant go through all the posts and comments because it’s 10+ pages long. but im wondering did she send this to ALL the guests? how embarrassing! even to send it to a close group of friends is embarrassing, but for this to go out to 300+ people…omg!

Post # 402
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7365 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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@SoupyCat:  I think OP should set up a new, anonymous email account to email this thread to her, and then report back.

100%. That she would send these out completely boggles my mind.

Post # 403
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Okay, so this is NOT cool.  I would not even respond.

Post # 404
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4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Next thing you know, she’ll want family and friends to contribute to their new house, to their annual vacations, to their childrens’ college funds…where would it end with someone like this. Yeesh.

 

Any updates? Tongue Out

Post # 405
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13906 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh man, when this popped back up, I was really hoping there was a new email.. hahah

Post # 406
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1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am glad that this thread popped back up .. reading all of the updates makes me feel like this wasnt just a thread to get us all riled up.. it is just sooo hard to believe that someone would have the audacity to send this email!! I agree with opening an anonymous account to send her this thread.

lol .. thats all

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