(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 482
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Her priorities are so twisted up in knots! From engagement photoshoot, save the dates, and a make-up artist, to guests having to pay their own way and donate items like a ring pillow. Does she not know that a ring pillow can be made for like $5?

Post # 483
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

A colleague of mine received a wedding invite which instead of having an RSVP card, it had the bride’s mothers bank account and asked you to deposit $120 for each person attending to cover the food and drinks. You had to include your name as a reference so they knew you had paid and were allowed to attend the reception. They also included a gift registry in the invite so that you would feel obliged to also bring a gift. 

I agree that weddings are expensive but you should not be taking it out on your guests. 

Post # 484
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

who would marry this chick?! If it’s not embarassing enough that she makes it painfully obvious that she and her fiance can’t manage money to save their lives, the fact that she is panhandling for money for her own wedding is beyond sad. I just feel bad for her! Seriously she must have a few screws loose… if you really care about her, have a chat about why this is all ridiculous. Best advice, don’t be friends with crazy people.

Post # 485
10 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Seriously?! She sounds a bit batty. But if this guy REALLY wants to marry her and she REALLY wants to get married…why don’t they get married by a justice of the peace(outside) and go to dinner with friends? Ugh. People get so caught up in the planning and show part of the wedding they forget what’s really important. 

Post # 486
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@araneidae:  The OP hasn’t seen the bride since highschool (something like 15 years ago!) they are not close friends, and yet, the OP is being sent these emails. Can you imagine how many other people are getting them too?!

Post # 488
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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@pippyskiddles:  I am dying to know what wedding venue in Redlands she chose (I grew up in that area and went to school in Calimesa). Any ideas?


Post # 489
3680 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Blue-ginger:  Jaw. Drops.

Post # 490
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012



Post # 491
337 posts
Helper bee

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@NAvery:  LOL I need them to be a little farther, but yeah I totally do that!! 🙂

Post # 492
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@Blue-ginger:  Are you serious?! I would have framed that invitation! Did your colleague attend that charity wedding??

Also: thanks OP, I was so frustrated with work & wedding today I felt like crying, but then I read this. You made my night!

Post # 493
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Blue-ginger:  That is…wow.  I just imagine security guards at that wedding checking you off to make sure you’re on the list.

“Pay to spend the night with my daughter.”  Huh.  Maybe it’s a theme wedding, with the theme of “Charity Ball.”  Or something.

Post # 494
5427 posts
Bee Keeper

She is supposedly poor and asking for donations for a wedding she can’t afford and she has things that are “luxury” in my books!

We have the venue, food, DJ, cake, officiant, hair dresser, invitations, unity candle, cake topper, guestbook, center pieces, bridesmaids bouquets, and tuxedos all set (or at least we know what we are doing, but still working out the finer details).

  • venue  -she can have it someone’s backyard
  • DJ – she can have someone’s i pod music
  • hairdresser – really? just comb your hair!
  • invitations – she is planning on sending out save the dates? what a waste of money!Just send out invitations to the ones who are too far to hand out personally! 
  • unity candle – maybe not a luxury if you are of that faith but tom me you can buy at the dollar store
  • cake topper? This is important?
  • guestbook – I think this can be skipped unless she has money to send thatnk you cards – which she probably going to ask for donations for taht after the wedding
  • centrepieces – this is not needed – especially if you have it in someone’s backyard …ahem…
  • bridesmaid bouquets – if you’re that darn poor – pick your own flowers from nature!
  • TUXEDOS – you’re going to shell out for tuxedo suits with MY DONATED MONEY?

Post # 495
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey crazypants, no one wants the blow by blow updates of your wedding planning, especially people who may not, as you so eloquently put it, “make the cut”!!

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