(Closed) How would you respond to this wedding request? Tacky email.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My response would be:  FAIL

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 

O_0

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w.h.a.t???

Post # 50
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Are you kidding me?!  I can’t believe there are people walking around on this green earth who would do such a thing! 

I would email her back and say you’ll send her money, but only if she’ll use it to buy herself some tact.

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with some posts here, if I can’t afford my wedding, I will just have to wait until I save some money OR just elope and have it done in the City Hall and be done with it.  I believe her email is not necessary and if she is having such a hard time paying per head then she needs to reduce her head count by 250 and just host 50 people.  

I haven’t seen a $19.95 pp venue.  My venue is $79 pp.  Geez.

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Also, to answer your question, the way I would respond to her would depend on my relationship with her. You said that she was an old college friend. Are you two still close at all? Still keep in touch? Or have you two drifted apart? If she is still close, I might go ahead and send her an email. Something along the lines of “this is really inappropriate, please stop sending these. I’m not sure if you are aware that you are embarrassing yourself.” If I were a clueless bride, I’d want a friend to tell me to cut it out. 

But if you’re not close, just ignore the emails. Or keep updating us here, because they are ASTONISHING. 

Post # 53
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@happyface:  Bahahahaha!!

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d send her a cheque, because I’m good like that…

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A cheque for 1 bloody cent!

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is this real life?

 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@pippyskiddles:  I would say “Ummmm. No. Take me off the guest list.”

 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

O_o

Is this real life?

I especially like the part about donating money but saying you can’t get mad if the guest list is cut or they splurge.  It sounds like she wants people’s money but doesn’t want to actually invite them.  It also sounds like she wants money so she can have a super awesome honeymoon or designer gown or something else non-essential instead of actually using the money to host her guests.

Normally I would say don’t respond, but I don’t think I could not respond to this.  I would probably email her back and say that you don’t have any money to donate, but give some suggestions on how to have a budget wedding so she can pay for everything herself and not have to worry about going into debt or asking others for help. I’d use @kariface:  idea and send some links to city hall, or a park or suggest a cake an punch reception.

I mean… wow… just… wow…

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Jaw*Floor

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Cariad:  bhaa haa haa. !! Win

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Whaaat? This chick is crazy. I agree with some of the PPs who advised to not say anything at all.

However, if confronted by the bride as to why I didn’t contribute (which would be even more ballsy!) I would say somehting like “So, should I deduct that $15-20 off the price of the gift I was planning on bringing?” or something snarky. The nerve of this girl… I can’t even get over it. 

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