Post # 1
I have a bad case of psoriasis on my arm. I am embarassed about it, mainly because people make rude comments about it. Thus, I try to wear long sleeves most of the time, but it’s 90 degrees out today, and it’s just too hot, so I gave in and wore short sleeves. Just running errands, several strangers commented about it. So rude! I don’t think these people are entitled to my health history, and I have seen a lot of good ideas on this site for ways to respond to nosy people in other situations, and figure the hive is up for this one. How would you respond? THANKS!
Post # 3
That’s so frustrating! I would just tell someone that it’s a skin condition and leave it at that.
Post # 4
I would be tempted to be like…. “hmm… I don’t know, but I don’t think it’s contagious…”
There’s no reason that strangers should be commenting on it. I would either maybe either just say “it’s just psoriasis” and leave it like that if I was in a good mood, or just answer “that’s kind of a personal question” and hope they drop it.
Post # 5
What do they say? What jerks! Psoriasis is common enough, I know several people who have it, and I never felt compelled to say something to them about it. But I don’t care if you’re walking down the street with a glowing red nose like Rudolph, it’s not a stranger’s place to comment on it! I would come up with a really curt reply that would show them how rude they are being, like if someone said “what happened to your arm!?” I would reply “It’s psoriasis and it’s none of your business.” Then just turn and walk away. Or you could turn it around and reply “what happened to your manners!?”
Post # 6
The questions I get asked the most are:
What’s wrong with your arm?/what happened to your arm? (I have never been quick enough/had the guts to say, “My arm breaks out when people ask nosy questions.”
Do you get into poison ivy? (it doesn’t look like poison ivy)
The hardest is when it’s people where I want to be rude, but can’t really- relatives, people I see often. For instance, my sister’s boyfriend asked, and I just said, “I have arm issues.”
Post # 7
rude person: “what’s wrong with your arm?”
you: “what’s wrong with your parents?”
then walk away and let them figure it out.
Post # 8
I love what starlette said that seems perfect to me!
Post # 9
I don’t remember where I saw the suggestion or what it was for, but I remember reading that one girl would just respond, “That was incredibly rude of you to say.” No further comment needed. Sometimes people just need a wakeup call.
Post # 10
Do you think asking if if have poison ivy is rude? I don’t think it’s ideal, but not as bad as “what’s wrong with your arm?”
Post # 11
I don’t think asking about poison ivy is as rude. They might be asking because they know an amazing treatment for it and want to help you.