How would YOU take this statement?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 61
Member
12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Some people on here are pretty mean. I might be a sensitive personality type. But I understand why you are upset. The way I see it is that you have gone to the effort of working out a date in advance that works for everyone. You expect if the date is agreed that they will commit to it. That comment is a very non-committal type comment and says she is. It really committing whole heartedly. I personally would rather someone just flat out tell me they don’t want to go – I would find that less offensive. Everyone can have something change out of their control at the last minute that we don’t plan for that means we have to adapt – we don’t live our lives planning for those things to happen before they do. For everyone telling you to get over yourself. Perhaps they should take a leaf out of the book of 50/50 relationships. That is you get what you give and i hope that when something upsets them they just get told to get over themselves. Chin up floss. You are entitled to feel happy about your wedding. 

Post # 62
Member
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

smithkennedy78 :  some people on here can be very snarky and negative. I would have been upset as well. It is rational to be upset. But don’t dwell on it. Enjoy your wedding dress shopping and only take the important people, not a whole crowd. (2-3 people max)

Post # 63
Member
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah, your friend has no tact. 

Personally, I’d ignore her until the wedding day. if she shows, she shows. A bridesmaid doesn’t have any responsibilities aside from showing up and possibly holding my bouquet. however, why force someone who so obviously doesn’t want to give you the courtesy of at least pretending to be excited for you?

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