(Closed) How Would You Want to Hear This?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4136 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would just tell them the truth — it’s too expensive. yes, they’ll be upset, but tell them that you hope you can get out there as soon as you have a little more money or ticket prices go down.

Post # 4
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Oy. Yeah, I agree with Kitzy. I would also consider acknowledging that you realize you cancelled on another trip, but money is just too tight right now. However, be prepared for someone to offer to chip in.

Post # 5
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the PP’s here. Just be honest. Sounds like you guys have and are doing all that you can.

Post # 6
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You should def not pay but I have to ask… didn’t you consider this before? Flying cross country and Christmas time isn’t cheap. Especially 3 weeks before Christmes. EEK!

Post # 7
6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

No one can argue with the fact that you don’t have the $ to go out there. Flying is ridiculously expensive and yes, maybe you could have bought your tickets in advance at a cheaper price, but if you don’t know your schedule in advance that poses a problem since changing your flights results is a huge $ penalty.

So I would just announce that you’re really sorry but you can’t make it out there this year due to funds but you will hopefully be out soon once you save up enough $.

Post # 10
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree also, be honest and tell them it’s too expensive… My IL’s also live on the West coast and last year they offered to pay for half our flights, this year we are going to my parents and can drive… They have no grounds to be upset if it’s because of money, flights are stupid expensive this year. I’m sure they will be disappointed but they should definitely understand. What about making a long weekend trip after the holidays when flights are less in cost?



Post # 12
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I probably would nix the trip.

Post # 13
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When I read your post title, my immediate answer to your questions was “with song and interpretive dance.”

But seriously….I am going to go against the grain…but I say spend the money and go.  I really do understand the value of paying of CC and reducing debt, but it sounds like you don’t see his family very often.  It is easy, especially at the end of the semester, to want to avoid all stress possible over winter break.  But in the end, hopefully your time spent with his younger siblings and parents will be much more valuable than saving the $1000.  Its only money anyways…. Smile

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