(Closed) How young can kids be to sit by themselves?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

By different table, do you mean a kid’s table? If so, then I’d just ask the parents, since they’d know best. At that age, it can vary. I was totally fine at my own table at that age, but I used to babysit kids that age who could not be at their own table. Just not ready yet.

Post # 4
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think that is old enough. I probably wouldn’t split kids from their parents, I have a 10 year old who extremely shy even round our extended family and she would cry if she had to sit seperate from us. Definately talk to their parents first.

Post # 5
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would ask the family, I think it can really vary & it depends on the child’s personality.

Post # 7
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ieatunicorns:  This.

I was a pretty shy kid and would have been pretty terrified if I was sat at a kids table with a bunch of other children I didn’t know!

However, if it’s a bunch of children that are all fairly close (ie. My littlest sister gets along great with all of her cousins, so I wouldn’t have a problem sitting them all together at their own seperate table), you might be able to make it work.

Still, 4 and 5 are pretty young to be expected to be on their best behavior without an adult keeping watch.

ETA-  Monkey, we replied at the same time!  Haha  In that case, I would still ask the parents to see how they feel about it.  However, I would probably just seat them with their parents if I were in your shoes.

Post # 8
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Too young- kids still need help from their parents at that age (parents will notice the “potty dance” sign well before strangers will). Also- I don’t think the parents would be happy about it

Post # 9
1425 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Monkey786:  Hmmm, even though they all get along, I’d find it off-putting as a 20-year-old to be at a table with 4 and 5-year-olds, especially if they’re not their own children and regardless if they all know each other and get along. Just saying. If there’s adults at the table, why not just sit the kids with their parents.

Post # 10
11355 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

That would make me a bit nervous, honestly.  How well do you know the parents of these children? If you’re very close with them, I would call them and ask them before I finalized your seating plan along those lines. 

In all honestly, the parents I know would probably split up, with one of the parents sitting with one child and the other parent sitting with the other child at the other table, unless there are other adults at the table with the children — adults with whom the children would be comfortable and whom the parents would entrust to oversee their kids.

Post # 11
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would hate to be in my early 20s and sitting with 4 and 5 year olds. It makes it seem like they’re babysitters. Just seat the little ones with their parents.

Post # 12
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013


IMO, children need to be seated beside their parents (especially at your wedding reception!) until they’re 10 or older. 4 & 5 is WAAAAAAY too young.

I also agree with PP that seating 20-something guests at a (primarily) kids’ table is just mean. As a 22-year-old who really doesn’t like kids all that much, it would be torture.

Post # 14
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Fi was against a kid table so we’re seating families and kids together.  I think a 4 year old is too young to sit away from their parents at a wedding.  Maybe ab-day party, but not a wedding.  I would have the kids table for kids 8 and up if you are doing that route.

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