Post # 1
My Fiance has a 5 and 11 year old niece and a 3 month old and 3 year old nephew
I’m very close to the girls, but no so much with the boys since they live in another state and we don’t see them that often.
So here is my questions 🙂
Is the 11 year old (will be 13 at the time of the wedding) old enough to be my Maid/Matron of Honor or should she be just a bridesmaid?
Is the 5 year old (will be 7 at the time of the wedding) to young to be a bridesmaid so should she be a flower girl?
Is the 3 year old (will be 5 at the time of the wedding) old enough to be our ring bearer?
Also my sister is having a baby boy, he’ll be 1 at the time of the wedding so is there a way to include the 3 month old (will be 18 months at the time of the wedding) and the 1 year old or are they to young?
Thanks ladies, Sorry if this was confusing! 😛
P.S: I’ve asked the girls Mum permission to have them in the bridal party but i haven’t asked the girls yet, Can anyone think of cute a way to ask them?
Post # 3
I think you can give them what title you like. If you want her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, then go for it, and so down the line.
From my side of things, in Aus the only thing about age is that normally the Maid/Matron of Honor would sign the bridal register as a witness. She would be to young for that, but you can just have someone else as your witness if thats how it works where you are as well.
My sister did not ask me to be in her bridal party when she got married, and I was 16. She felt I was to young for Bridesmaid or Best Man and to old for Flower Girl. And I was devastated, as my older sister was the only attendant she had.
Post # 4
You could have the youngest girl as a wedding princess, and the boys as wedding princes. That would be cute.
Post # 5
I have an 11 year old as my Maid/Matron of Honor. She is very excited about helping make sure my dress is neatly laid out in the chapel etc. Her 7 year old sister will be bridesmaid and then I have a 4 year old boy as page boy and 2 2 year old girls as flower girls. I think calling the lder one Maid/Matron of Honor would mean so much to her and make her feel so grown up and special. Just adapt the jobs you give her so that she feels important but not so much responsibility that it’s too much for her. No bachelorette parties! lol!
Post # 6
If you want to have your 11 year old as your Maid/Matron of Honor I don’t see anything wrong with that!
My Maid/Matron of Honor is a close friend, and I’ve really appreciated her support throughout this process… Just make sure you have someone that is in that role for you, even without the title, because trust me you’re going to need it!
Post # 7
I think it really depends on the kids. Can you trust that a 3 year old will be able to make it down the aisle as a ringbearer? Will the 5 year old have the confidence to walk in front of a crowd of people with everyone watching her?
With the older girl as a Maid/Matron of Honor… you could do it, but you then have to be aware that she can’t live up to a lot of the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor tasks. She won’t be throwing you a shower, she won’t be involved in planning a bachelorette party, she may not even be comfortable giving a toast at the reception. If you (and the mother who will likely have to assume a lot of the responsibility outside of the financial aspect) are okay with it, then it’s fine, but those are thoughts that came to mind.
Post # 8
You can make them whatever you want and you can also make up names and positions for people that you want. It’s your day so that makes it your way
Post # 9
@Firie: We were going to get our Mum’s to sign bridal register as witnesses 🙂 Can I just ask what Wedding Princesses and Princes are? *feels stupid*
@Cariad: I defiantly won’t expect the ‘normal’ Maid/Matron of Honor duties from her!
@miss.alice.m: I’m very close to my Mum, She’ll be my biggest support when I need her (Aswell as FI)
@abbie017: The 3 year old will be 5 at the time of the wedding so i’m pretty sure he’ll be okay, If we needed to he could hold the younger girls hand and they can go down together.
We’re only having a smallish wedding (30-35 people max) and it’s all family so I sure she’d be confident enough to walk down the aisle (Plus she loves attention, she a little diva :P)
I’m more than happy to not have a bridal shower or bachelorette party, Her Mum is okay with her being a bridesmaid, so i’m hoping it won’t make much difference if she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor
@mrsjjohnson2b: Thank you 😀
Post # 10
I say go for it! The children will enjoy being a included in this way!
Post # 11
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I think 7 is a little old for a flower girl, so I would make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man. As for the MoH, if she is the closest female in your life who is not a parent, then go for it.
Post # 12
@mrsSonthebeach: Thanks 🙂 I do have other females i’m close to in my life, But if w had everyone important we’d have half the wedding in the bridal party (Honestly I worked it out and we’d have a ridiculous number of people!)
Post # 13
I think the youngest boy can definitely be the ring bearer. I would make the girls junior bridesmaids.