(Closed) How young is to young to be in a bridal party?

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: How should we have the bridal party
    Oldest Girl as MOH : (6 votes)
    11 %
    Oldest Girl as Bridesmaid : (12 votes)
    21 %
    Youngest Girl as Bridesmaid : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Youngest Girl as Flower Girl : (17 votes)
    30 %
    Oldest Boy as Ring Bearer : (14 votes)
    25 %
    Don't Have Any Kids : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Other - please tell me :D : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think you can give them what title you like.  If you want her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, then go for it, and so down the line.

    From my side of things, in Aus the only thing about age is that normally the Maid/Matron of Honor would sign the bridal register as a witness.  She would be to young for that, but you can just have someone else as your witness if thats how it works where you are as well.

    My sister did not ask me to be in her bridal party when she got married, and I was 16.  She felt I was to young for Bridesmaid or Best Man and to old for Flower Girl.  And I was devastated, as my older sister was the only attendant she had.

    Post # 4
    Member
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You could have the youngest girl as a wedding princess, and the boys as wedding princes.  That would be cute.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I have an 11 year old as my Maid/Matron of Honor.  She is very excited about helping make sure my dress is neatly laid out in the chapel etc.  Her 7 year old sister will be bridesmaid and then I have a 4 year old boy as page boy and 2 2 year old girls as flower girls.  I think calling the lder one Maid/Matron of Honor would mean so much to her and make her feel so grown up and special. Just adapt the jobs you give her so that she feels important but not so much responsibility that it’s too much for her.  No bachelorette parties! lol!

     

    Post # 6
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee

    If you want to have your 11 year old as your Maid/Matron of Honor I don’t see anything wrong with that!

    My Maid/Matron of Honor is a close friend, and I’ve really appreciated her support throughout this process… Just make sure you have someone that is in that role for you, even without the title, because trust me you’re going to need it!

    Post # 7
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    13294 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it really depends on the kids.  Can you trust that a 3 year old will be able to make it down the aisle as a ringbearer?  Will the 5 year old have the confidence to walk in front of a crowd of people with everyone watching her? 

    With the older girl as a Maid/Matron of Honor… you could do it, but you then have to be aware that she can’t live up to a lot of the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor tasks.  She won’t be throwing you a shower, she won’t be involved in planning a bachelorette party, she may not even be comfortable giving a toast at the reception.  If you (and the mother who will likely have to assume a lot of the responsibility outside of the financial aspect) are okay with it, then it’s fine, but those are thoughts that came to mind. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    You can make them whatever you want and you can also make up names and positions for people that you want.  It’s your day so that makes it your waySmile

    Post # 10
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    4675 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I say go for it! The children will enjoy being a included in this way!

    Post # 11
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    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think 7 is a little old for a flower girl, so I would make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man. As for the MoH, if she is the closest female in your life who is not a parent, then go for it.

    Post # 13
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    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I think the youngest boy can definitely be the ring bearer. I would make the girls junior bridesmaids.

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