(Closed) How Young Is Too Young?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 46
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I met my Fiance when i was 17. We’ve been together for four years and we are both 21. we recently got engaged and our wedding is april 2017. I knew the moment i saw him he was the one for me despite our age. If you feel it then go for it.

Post # 47
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

i had to add this. me and my fiance had people telling us for years that we were too young. We moved in together after 4 months of dating. I get that people change, trust me we’ve both changed, but over 4 years of drama, family fights and craziness we still love eachother. We still wake up every day with more love for eachother. When you know you know. Your the only one who knows how you feel. I couldnt imagine my life without him and its been that way since the beginning. the past 4 years have been amazing but the have also been challenging. Getting married is much more than just loving eachother. There has to be trust, respect, understanding. I think you should think about it and listen to your heart regardless of what people say. for the longest time my family didnt like my fiance but i stood by his side because i know him and our love. Live for you and no one else. I hope this helped. feel free to DM me if you need anymore advice.

 

ooooo shit girls. i just saw the other posts. lol

Post # 48
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I *knew* I was going to marry my high school sweetheart. We started dating in grade 10 (or I guess sophomore year for US bees). One long-term life threatening illness (him, not me), a promise ring, and 3.5 years of young love later, we had a mutual split. I still think of him fondly but I knew he was not the one once I was about 20 or so…we had just grown up to be different people and I couldn’t see us together forever anymore. I am now 27 and have met my absolute perfect match. That being said, if my high school sweetheart had proposed to me when I was 19, I would have said yes at the time. All I can say is thank god that didn’t happen! Or I suppose, thank god for promise rings, hahahaha. I hate the concept now but they are definitely useful for young love.

Just to add another side to the story, my boss has been with her high school sweetheart for 30 years and still says she knew he was the one…but she also got pregnant at 19, so who knows, maybe they wouldn’t have gotten engaged/married if it wasn’t for that. I also don’t think they are a perfect match but they obviously make it work! 

Post # 50
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744 posts
Busy bee

sarajones :  not sure why you sit around writing long elaborate lies. Get a life 

 

Clearly all of it is BS. In one post she graduated from TCU in another post goes to UF.

Don’t feed it

Post # 51
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

TBH, I know a couple who went to college, finished, began careers, and didn’t marry until they were substantially “figured out” in life, and were much older and more mature (or so one would think) and even THAT ended in divorce. My own parents married at 17 and 20, and are on the verge of divorce. I don’t really think age has so much to do with it as the quality of your relationship. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are on middle ground with just about everything in life, age/work, and are talking about marriage. I have no doubt that we’ll ever separate after we’re married. My advice: don’t let everyone’s opinions confuse you, evaluate what is in your heart, and what your relationship is TRULY like, and go with what your heart tells you what’s right. 

Post # 52
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

When I started dating my fiancé at eighteen (now 21) I knew he was the one. Neither of us planned to do the college thing, and at nineteen he landed a union job in the port of Los Angeles making an impressive income. We pay for everything ourselves and own one home with another couple purchases in the next foreseeable few years. I’m so proud of my guy, and yes, I brag about him incessantly.

We have friends in their forties who still struggle with the ‘basics’ of adulthood and relationships. 

My point is, yes, Doll, you’re young. However, age isn’t the be-all-and-end-all when measuring maturity. I’m engaged at 21, and have luckily yet to hear a “you’re too young,” or anything of the like. We will be married at 23. If you’re 100% committed, 100% financially responsible for yourself, and 100% happy, I see no issue! Maybe just enjoy your engagement and wait 2-3 years to get married, as you’re still in the beginning of your time together. When you know– you know! Best of luck. πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

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