(Closed) How young is too young for a flower girl/ring bearer?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I honestly think it depends on the personality of the child. My 2.5 year old niece went into utter shock and froze partway down the aisle, then burst into tears and cried “Maaaaaamaaaa!!!” and ran down the rest of the way. As seen here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ud8jhb9szEY

It was terribly cute to me though. But some might not appreciate that, lol.

I would say if the 2 year olds have a BIG personality and like to show it off, then they might well be suited to walk down the aisle. I would just be prepared to not have it go your way! haha. Or to have their parent’s on standby just in case they need to be walked down. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree it all depends on the personality of the child.  We wanted to have a flower girl who will be 2 yrs old by the time we get married but her parents (FI’s brother) didn’t think she would be mature enough for it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My niece was 1 when we got married. Her mom carried her down the aisle. I think it’s at the couples discretion.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My son will be 2 by my wedding and he is only outgoing when he wants to be–so he will the “little” best man, walking my sister down the aisle. He will hold the ring pillow but he would just be too scared to walk down a huge cathedral aisle alone!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

my flower girl was a week shy of being two during our wedding. We had an older ring bearer (8) and he walked her down the aisle and helped her. 

2 is not too young but you will need someone to help them. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My friend’s niece was about 18 months when she got married (the friend, not the niece ;-)). They decorated a wagon “wedding-y” and the baby’s mom rolled her down the aisle. Totally stole the show (until the bride appeared, of course). 

DH’s cousin had a Flower Girl and Ring Bearer about the age of the kiddos you’re thinking of. She had the little ones “escorted” down the aisle–the adult in the middle, the kids holding her hands. It made sure the kids got where they needed to go with no troubles. Still, totally adorable, despite the presence of a grown up

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My niece was 2 years, 2 months at the time of our wedding, and she did really well. She charged down the aisle like she owned it. I was surprised because I actually didn’t expect her to make it, but I really wanted her to be a part of it. As long as you have realistic expectations and are okay with the fact that there might be a meltdown, I think having a young child in the wedding is a lot of fun.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My niece was my flower girl she was 16 months old. It went fine. She got a little of track but it was so cute and she did a great job. Our ring bearer was DH’s son who had just turned 3. He did a great job. Because they’re cute and I love them so much here’s a pic of them dancing together at the wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We are having 2 flower girls, one will be 2 and the other will be 6.  We are hoping the 2 year old will be fine and she can walk with the 6 year old.  It also helps that  the 2 year old’s dad is FI’s best man so we will just tell her to walk to him.

We are thinking at the moment we will wait and see how it goes at the rehersal and play it by ear on the day, if she gets shy she can walk with a bridesmaid or be carried by one.

@AbbyDabbyDoodleBug: Aww that is so cute, poor little girl, she looked so worried!  The little boy was nice to try and help her πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

whoops double post

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Our nephew who will be our ring bearer will be just 2 years and 1 month old at our wedding.  At that age, I think we will just have to play it by ear – maybe he’ll make it down the aisle fine, maybe he’ll freak out and cry, or maybe he’ll already be tired by the time the ceremony rolls around and he’ll be sleeping somewhere – who knows.  I think because we’re mentally prepared for it, we’re just going to roll with the punches πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@nzgirl: Lol, thanks! The little boy is my nephew (her  cousin) and we had practiced them walking together at the rehearsal the night before, but it was so funny to see him just go “Peace Out!” and just march down the rest of the aisle, leaving her in the dust. 

She’s a little shy to begin with around people she doesn’t know well, so I didn’t expect much. I had no idea she had a meltdown until the day after at brunch!

Sorry for the thread jacking, lol. 

To the OP, I would just say go for it and if they have a meltdown or not, it’s bound to be cute since they are only 2. πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Be sure to check with your venue. Our church does not allow children younger than 5 to be part of the wedding party.

Other than that, I’d say as long as you’re comfortable with the fact that things will NOT go perfectly, go for it! Children have minds of their own and that can either be really cute and funny, or horrifying, depending on your perspective. My niece was a flower girl at 4 and practically ran down the aisle and into her mother’s arms. It was adorable, but not what she was supposed to do! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ours our both 2. I’m not worried about them not doing it perfectly.. because I know they won’t. πŸ™‚

I’m just greatful that they can be a part of the wedding!

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