(Closed) how your guests should dress

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


I expect my guests to show up in something comfortable. What they wear is up to them.


Post # 5
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Be prepared.. there’s always one person who shows up dressed very inappropriate.

Post # 7
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did formal, although it’s what I call “California Formal” in my head (bc I’m from California). So the ladies mostly did short cocktail-type dresses with a few long dresses and the men did suits with ties. I think traditional formal dictates long dresses for all women.

Even though we put “formal reception” everywhere (invite/website/etc.), we definitely did have people show up in some unusual attire, such as resort casual. Trust me, they felt out of place without us having to say anything.

Post # 9
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You can’t really tell people what to wear. They are adults and you need to expect them to know how to dress themselves. If you are having a black tie event, I would find it appropriate to pass around via word of mouth that appropriate attire is expected, however it’s just a request. You can’t really require it.

Post # 10
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

Since my ceremony is late afternoon(5:00) and my reception is in the evening (6:30), I am hoping people will dress at least in suits and ties/dress blues (my husband is in the army and we are inviting a lot of his buddies) and the girls in nice dresses/skirts.

Post # 11
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

While we didn’t put any prescribed attire on our invitations (and don’t plan to put it on the website either), we are hoping most people dress up at least a little bit.  Slacks and jackets for the men and cocktails dresses for the women.  They all know where we are getting married and that all the bridal party is formal, so I’m just hoping no one shows up in jeans (although I’m sure there will be a woman or two that will dress is something too short and tight…this is just judging from how I’ve seen them dress in the past).  I don’t feel right telling people how to dress (and I don’t want to waste the energy in all that).  Lol, there will always be that one or two that are clueless…

Post # 12
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We opted “creative black tie” so guys don’t nessicarily have to wear a tux, but they can wear something like This. 

And females could do short or long. 

Post # 13
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I really don’t care too much what they wear. BUT our wedding is pretty casual & the entire thing is outdoors so I want people to feel comfortable & nothing says uncomfortable more than a floor-length shimmering gown and high heels in the middle of the woods. Our guys won’t be wearing full suits either so I don’t expect anyone to show up with suits or jackets, i’m asking the guys in my family to keep it down to slacks with a button up. Even told a few people I’m a-okay with jeans as long as they’re in a dressier form like a cute pencil skirt or capri’s with a dressy shirt… My biggest fear is that Future Mother-In-Law will out-dress my family because she always wears fancy black-tie stuff to weddings… 

Post # 14
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Ours is “Morning Formal”

…But I bet greater than 50% of the people there will GREATLY underdress!

Post # 15
4656 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Several people have asked me what the dress code is, because we’re having a kind of odd wedding and I think they’re worried the usual ways to tell (invitation, etc.) won’t give them the right info. I was going to say anything about it (because I honestly don’t care what people wear, they could turn up in tracksuits and I wouldn’t mind) but apparently “I don’t care” is not a good enough answer when someone asks you what they’re supposed to wear.

(This is actually problem I keep running into over and over, because there’s so, so many things where they answer is “No really I don’t care,” but apparently that’s a bad answer.)

So… On the website I suggested, “Whatever you’d wear to a nice resaturant on a summer day.” (Since a nice restaurant on a summer day is exactly where we’ll be.) I’m hoping people keep it light and comfortable. 

Post # 16
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t put anything on our invites, but it is a Saturday night wedding. The bridal party will be wearing gowns/tuxes.

Knowing my family and this area of the country, most women will be in cocktail dresses, men will wear suits (or at least, a shirt, tie and jackets). Because of the time and venue, I doubt anyone will be in jeans or anything like that. But I could see some less dressy cocktail dresses or guys without jackets/ties.

Of course, if someone does decide to dress way up or way down, I’m not going to let it bother me…unless someone showed up in a wedding gown with a veil! Then I’d be very mad! 😉

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