(Closed) How’d you figure out what kind of dress?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

what type of wedding are you having and what type of venue, because it really should be a complete vision, because certain dresses go well with certain settings more than others. But most of all trying on different styles really helps you know which ones you like and which ones you dont like

Post # 4
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I started off with what I didn’t want as well.

I’d suggest finding a handful of dresses that you like online then just going to a salon with pictures of them and seeing what the consultatnt comes up with. Try different things on until you find a silhouette that’s flattering that you also like. Then work from there.

Of course your venue, personality, and the formality of your wedding play a part as well. It’s not brain surgery, just trial and error until the pieces seem to fit together.

Post # 5
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Play dress up for a while. ๐Ÿ™‚ At your first appointment, have them show you different shapes and styles so you get an idea of how you look. You’ll start formulating opinions about what looks/doesn’t look good on you! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Keep an open mind. The dress I ended up with is so different than what I thought I’d have. I wanted lace with no beading, just a simple lace a-line dress in ivory. The dress I ended up with is soft white, puffy, with just a little beading at the hip. Hardly any detailing like I expected with a lace dress. So just go into the store and try things in and as you go along tell the people what you like and dislike about each dress. You’re actually at an advantage by not having a vision I think.

Post # 7
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I first narrowed it down by the overall feel of my wedding. I am having paper lanterns, milkglass, and a very neutral color palette (black, gray, ivory, and white) — think clean/natural and less vintage/rustic. So that eliminated certain things like a satin ballgown.

Then, I tried on zillions of dresses. Yes, zillions ha. I even bought a few along the way, but I don’t recommend that. Just try more on. ๐Ÿ˜‰

But seriously, be open to different shapes and styles. Try on straps if you wanted strapless, and try on strapless if you wanted straps. Don’t avoid a silhouette you think won’t work until you see it for yourself and then you can rule it out. I was not impressed by A-line dresses with natural waists on me, though they are supposed to be pretty much universally flattering. I felt it made me look bigger, but a dropped waist A-line slimmed my entire torso. Who knew? Then, once you have a shape in mind, consider the kinds of fabric or embellishments. I wanted lace, but the more lace dresses I tried on, the more bored I got. So I tried some tiers and floral designs and ruffles, and I loved them but I knew they were maybe too over the top for my style. So I found a dress with a striped lace pattern alternating with pleated polka dot tulle. Perfect! Just the right amount of interest without being over the top. And it’s a dropped waist, full A-line. Perfect perfect perfect! But I had to try on some ballgowns, some mermaids, some slim A-lines, some dropped waisted poof dresses, some taffeta, some pick-ups, some organza, some sashes, some beads, and everything else along the way. It was a long process for me.

But then, too, you have cases like my friend who tried like 5 dresses on at one shop and picked her favorite and was done. You’ll know when you get there how you feel about it, and trust yourself. Don’t be swayed by the salespeople or even your friends/family.

This is becoming a novel, so I’ll stop now, but ultimately, there is no right way to know — you just have to get out there and see what it all looks like on you until something catches your fancy. Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i knew what i didn’t want and went from there. i wanted something big lol so thats what i got

Post # 10
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I wanted a dress that screamed “ME!”  

We are also having a fantasy-themed wedding, so it also had to go with that.  I also wanted something I could wear again and didn’t cost a bloody fortune.

Soooooo, I went looking on eBay!!!!  and found a dress that my Fiance and I both thought would be perfect.  Well, more like me pulling up dress after dress that I liked then asking him “which one?”

We ordered it then I went and tried on gowns.  After all, when ELSE would I get to do that?!?  And…. fell in love with DB’s Ariel look-alike.  But, didn’t get it because a)$500 is more than I wanted to spend, b)wasn’t exactly gonna go with the theme and c)I’d already ordered a dress!!! 

I am sooooo glad I waited and got the one I ordered off eBay (could only find one other eBay store that had this dress and couldn’t find it ANYWHERE else) because it is ME and is PERFECT!  

It’s also very unusual: pink/peach colored bodice with black embroidery and silver/clear beads and sequins that flow down a thigh-high slit on the black skirt.  It’s very elegant and very fantasy-ish.  It’s also NOT traditional (I don’t do traditional, lol) and I love it.

Both my Maid/Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid agree it’s PERFECT, the other bridesmaid thinks I should’ve gone with the white traditional gown.  (can’t win ’em all, I guess! LOL!)

Post # 11
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just always knew I wanted a ballgown. I don’t even know when I decided that. Maybe it was just always what I pictured or something.

If you’re unsure, though, I would really recommend trying on all different types!

Post # 12
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i actually started with what i don’t like too.

i am completely uncomfortable in strapless and wanted to make sure my boobies wouldn’t need any attention to stay covered, so i started with dresses that made that happen.

then i put one on and thought “damn, i look good.”  so i bought it.  done and done.

Post # 13
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I knew I wanted short, vintage inspired, and lace. Something that isn’t huge and white and will make all eyes on me, as I hate being the center of attention. Then when I put it on, I just knew.

Post # 14
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Price was definitely a factor and I also tried to take into the account the formality of our wedding. I gave the consultant a price point and told her I wanted to try on all kinds of dresses with different silhouettes. She brought me a little of everything and I tried it on, she was really helpful.

I tried to keep an open mind, got feedback from the people I brought with me, and figured out what looked best. Based on my experience, I think it’s fun to try on a bunch of different kinds of dresses, and you’ll know what makes you feel good and what doesn’t.

Post # 15
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Two tips:

1. Try EVERYTHING on. I swore up and down I’d get a dramatic ballgown- hated them. I am tall and thin, and found much  more form fitting dresses highlighted my figure more.

2. Have an idea of what you want your wedding to be like. You know, key words, themes, etc- like I wanted romantic, elegant, but refreshing.

I knew I found my dress because I really got that stron g”the dress” feeling, and then when the consultant, not knowing my wedding theme, described the dress using those exact words above, I was like DONE. This is it! I mean, how many people use “Refreshing” to describe a wedding and the dress?

Post # 16
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Since I knew I was getting married near the beach, I wanted a nice flowing destination style dress.  Modern, simple, detailed and elegant.  I thought of my daily and evening wardrobe and I went from there.  I only tried on 2 dresses that were in my budget.  My Maid/Matron of Honor tried to get me to go bridal shopping but I refused cause it would confuse me.   And I already knew I would be disappointed when I couldn’t buy the 5k dress. 

My first dress was A-line and I couldn’t get it up my back.  My 2nd dress is basically a strapless sheath style dress.  It fits me like a glove.  I love that the dress has hand stitching and is detailed simply but elegantly.  Its sooo me.  I’ve always been about the construction, fabric and details of my clothes.

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