How's married life?! (And other dumb questions you've gotten as a newlywed)

posted 1 week ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - NOLA

From several friends, acquaintances, and co-workers:

“So when are the babies coming?”

Like really!? Can I enjoy being married for a minute!?

Post # 3
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80 posts
Worker bee

For us, married life is exactly the same as the last seven years of dating life. I feel like I’m supposed to have a profound answer to that question and I don’t…

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: San Francisco City Hall

Eh, the only real question I’ve gotten over and over again is “how’s married life?”.  As if its going to be drastically different. I usually respond with a laugh and say oh you know, the laundry still doesn’t make it to the hamper 5 feet away and I can still expect to find beard trimmings all over the sink.

After living with someone for 4+ years the good thing is you know exactly what you’re getting into.  I’m not complaining.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

The only one we’ve gotten is “How’s married life?” and for awhile we got the when are babies coming question but we always just said “eventually” and people stopped asking.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

“What did you spend your wedding gift money on?”

“When are you having babies? You’re getting old, you know”

“Why’d you buy that new car? Are you having a baby?”

“How many carats is your engagement ring?”

๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜’

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Sheesh. 

Pretty sure “how is married life?” is just a friendly and conversational question tbh.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I get the “how’s married life” question from one person I see at work every week and every week I give the same answer, “so far, so good”. I’m not sure what she thinks is going to change week to week but I’m guessing she just doesn’t know what else to say to me. I’ve also had the baby question and I just say we’re not there yet.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m surprised people are so offended by “how’s married life?’. It’s just small talk, people are trying to be nice by referencing a recent big event in your life.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

I don’t think you need some profound answers to “How’s married life” it is really just a conversation starter. I always said “same as cohabitation life” and often got a laugh. 

 

Now, asking how you spent the money is really invasive. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I agree that “how’s married life” is a totally normal question that I just say “great” to and don’t think about it again.

My grandfather, however, has asked me multiple times if “we’ve had our first fight yet.” Then proceeds to give me advice for getting through it. It’s funny and sweet because its my grandfather but I don’t even know how to answer that question… we were together for 5.5 years before getting married so yeah, our “first fight” had long since happened.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

ilyik :  the married life one doesn’t annoy me though I do think it’s a bit of a stupid/pointless question.

The one that does annoy me is ‘when will you be starting a family?’. My answer to that is never.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The day after our wedding,  I got asked “How does it feel to be married?” like 10 times. It was SO annoying!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

Babies. Definitely babies. Thirty minutes post-ceremony, so when are there going to be babies? Will you get pregnant before or after the honeymoon? Do you want babies? Do you know, it’s better if you have babies early? How many babies will you have? Are you drinking, or will you not be BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE BABIES IN YOUR WOMB.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I don’t mind the how’s married life question, it was a pretty big change for DH & I (were not living together beforehand). I HATE the baby question, we’ve been married 8 months and people are acting like we’ve been married so long and it’s time for children. I just straight up tell people we don’t want them at all, that our pets are enough. A deacon at our church made a comment a week ago and I told him we like to practice but don’t actually want the babies.

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